Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been together since February. We are very much in love, and our relationship is healthy and strong. We have integrated with each others family and friends, and everything is great! We both want to get married, but money has been a bit of an issue in regards to the ring. We decided that since we do everything as a team, we will also be a team to get me the ring I want. We both have Christmas Club accounts to save and plan to buy my ring online on black Friday (Gotta get that ebates double cash back and the sales!).
That being said, he gave me a window of Nov-Dec. So given that we planned to buy the ring black Friday, that knocks out November. He isn’t one who would propose without a ring.
All I know, is he has told those close to him his proposal plan (because he needs help with it). I don’t have any other details and I don’t want to press him for anything and ruin the surprise. I found a reciept in my car where he donated to a local Christmas festival…so I wonder if that might be part of the plan!
I talk to family and friends about this, but I feel that they grow tired and don’t share my excitement! I know you wonderful bees will totally be on the same page and want to talk about your future proposals too!
How can December be so soon, but yet so far away? LOL.
Post # 2
I feel you! My proposal window is creeping closer though, September or October! It can be maddening at times, but I learned quickly to stop mentioning it to family & friends (especially since we don’t want everyone to know until it has actually happened).
Best advice is to preoccupy yourself as best as possible! Lately I’ve been planning various trips around the country that I can’t afford, but it passes the time and is something I can talk about easily to friends and my boyfriend. I just pick a place, say Florida, and go through everything we’d want to see, how much time we would need there, flying vs driving, and all the cost factors. Then I pick the next place!
That all being said, I still want to just time travel to future where we are already engaged so I can share that joy with the world and have this wait be overwith!!
Post # 3
I so feel you on talking to friends/family! We have been ring shopping, and it was so exciting for me that I wanted to tell lots of people and show them the pretty rings I saw, but I also felt weird showing them off when nothing is official yet! So I only shared with my mom and my BFF. That helped a little, but I still look at the photos of the rings I tried on a lot haha.
I am guessing he is planning a Christmas engagement from some comments he made, but who knows! Our timeline is within the next 6-8 months or so. He won’t give me any more concrete details so I’m just here waiting!
Post # 4
I’m in the same place as you! My boyfriend said he should have my ring by Christmas. He’s still saving up for it. But if not I think I may have to wait until my birthday on Valentines Day. I already feel engaged almost. He is in the Army and he wanted me to start getting pricing and planning our wedding. I’ve already planned everything, I’m just not officially a fiancé yet. And I haven’t tried on dresses or went to venues yet because it would just feel weird since he hasn’t officially asked me yet. I’ve just been trying to stay busy to keep my mind off of it. I’ve been trying to have something to look forward to each month. Like a concert etc. and I’ve been working out more. Make sure to tell us about the proposal when he proposes!
Post # 5
That is good advice! Thank you. I feel like a crazy person sometimes because being married (more than a proposal) is all that I can think about. I crave the next steps and the security of knowing we are married. It makes it so hard to enjoy the now. He promises that we will be engaged in December and that next year is ‘our year’ but my heart is having a hard time being rational, and it’s begun to affect the ability of my brain to be rational too.
In other news with your trip planning, I happen to live in Florida! Pensacola, to be exact. We have beautiful beaches and we are a Navy town, so we have the Blue Angels F-18 demonstration jets (which means lots of airshows, a museum, ect). I hope you will enjoy if/when you come to Florida! It is beautiful, but its HOT! LOL.
Post # 6
Gosh it is SOOO hard not to run my mouth and just explode proposal and ring stuff onto everyone that I know. I feel like a crazy person, and I think it’s taking over my brain. It’s all I think about. I need to just calm down and enjoy the now…but idk how to. So that’s why I’m here.
I hope you get your proposal soon, and I’m glad you’re here to pass the time with us!
Post # 7
Doesn’t knowing when the ring is coming make it harder than not knowing? I hate surprises and I love planning…so it makes that part of my brain happy. But I am also SUUUper impatient. I want what I want now. I guess anything worth having is worth waiting for huh?
I am also with you on the planning stuff. I haven’t done anything formal, just a lot of daydreaming. We aren’t having a big wedding…just a church thing with the reception in the fellowship hall. I don’t think it will be hard to plan. I am sure your wedding will be beautiful! It sounds like you have a wonderful man.
I need a distraction plan, something I can focus on besides the future.
Maybe I should focus on loosing some weight, lol…bc Lord knows I need to lol.
Post # 8
hollynichole : I am the same way! I have been craving next steps for years now. We’re FINALLY living with each other full time in about two weeks, after two years of long distance where we would only see each other every other weekend. So dreaming about our future is all I could do, and now I’m very excited that some of it is finally coming true! Enjoying the now is hard when you know there’s so much better times up ahead!! Like I said, distract yourself as much as possible to stay sane!
I’ve been to Florida twice before (both times Disney) so I really want to explore other parts of the state! I live in Wisconsin though, so if we go to Florida, it will likely be a January escape from our freezing winters. Right now, August in Wisconsin, it’s a beautiful 73 degrees outside. I think the highest I have ever seen here is about 88 degrees. In January we’ll likely be averaging -10 with the wind chills, so Florida would be a lovely getaway!
Depending if we get legally married before then, we might take a trip over to Honeymoon Island too! XD
Post # 9
Thank you for sharing part of your story with me! I know firsthand (from the past) that long distance is very difficult. Not for the faint of heart, for sure. I’m very happy for you and your DH that you are finally to the place where you can live together! You deserve it for all of your patient waiting.
My DH and I are very fortunate that we live close (driving distance) to each other, and I get to see him nearly every day. I often wish and hope for the time where he and I will get to live together, but I feel like a jerk after stopping to consider we are lucky to get to be together as much as we are. This is why these boards are nice, to help us get out of our own heads.
I guess what is really important, and we should really be greatful for is having someone we love enough and that loves us enough to even be thinking about marriage. It took me forever to feel this way about someone. My DH is the best person I know.
Disney is the best! Well, the crowds are not fun but the magical feeling there is wonderful. I’ve been a handful of times but I’m 8 hours from Orlando. I’m in the panhandle. Right now it is 86 degrees and thunderstorming. I love cooler weather, but we have to wait until december for 73 degree days lol. Usually around Feb-March is when it is “cold” here, and by that I mean you might have 50 degree nights…MAYBE.
Y’all will love being “snowbirds” and coming down for the warm weather.
I think i’ve seen snow 3 times in my life here, and it only stuck once. I’m 32 by the way…so it doesn’t snow much. I’ve not been north much as an adult. I would love to see a white Christmas :).
Post # 10
hollynichole : I have a whole boatload of stories since we’ve had so many different circumstances upon us. But I wouldn’t trade it for a thing, and while the distance really sucked, I think it was the right thing for us at the time.
Living together is a huge step and something to look forward to! We dreamed about it for years now, starting from back when I had just graduated high school and he was going to be a senior. Soooo much waiting XD
Speaking of which, that was the same summer we went to Disney with our high school band and marched through Magic Kingdom at two in the afternoon in June! It was sweaty, but the most amazing experience.
We all have a lot to be grateful for, and especially with us, I feel so incredibly fortunate and thankful that we found each other so young and have gotten to experience all sorts of wonderful things together!
We definitely would love a winter getaway one of these years. In fact, his grandma goes down to Arizona every year to escape it. I wish I could too! The funny thing is, while Halloween is very chilly and it’s typical to have snow for Thanksgiving, for some reason it’s just cold with little snow for most of December, so sometimes white Christmases are a hit or miss. January-February is when the snow REALLY kicks in. It’s also typical to have the last snowstorm in late April.
Post # 11
Oh my, high school sweethearts! I love it! It is wonderful that you two found a lasting love so young.
I was not so lucky, but am a believer that everything happens for a reason. The wait made me who I am and led me to a wonderful man.
That is amazing about your disney trip! What instrument did you play in band? I was a clarinet in middle school, but HORRIBLE at it lol. I can’t imagine band uniforms in a Florida summer. SO HOT!
How did you meet your DH? I know you go way back, but how did it start?
We have a trip to Tennessee planned with friends in October. In fact, I had an idea a few minutes ago to list all the things I’m excited about between now on Christmas…so that I have other things to focus on…week by week if I can.
Part of my ‘hurry’ to marry is that I am a little bit older and want children. But after reading some of the baby/parenting boards now I’m not sure if I’m mature enough yet to be a mom lol. I guess you ‘grow up fast’ when you have to.
I’ve so enjoyed getting to know you a little bit here.
Post # 12
Oh my gosh, this comforts me so very much bees, I thought I was the only one being so antsy!
SO said between September and December, but as his brother marries Sep. 2nd, I don’t think it’ll happen so soon.
Moreover, I’m such a big christmas fan, I’m almost sure it’ll happen on either an advent sunday (do you say that in the US? One of the four Sundays before christmas) or on christmas eve.
We’re Germans and happen to have a lot of castles and fortresses around (there must be around 15 I could reach within an hour by car, we have two in the city we live in) and every christmas, there are so very romantic christmas markets in and around them – where there’s lights and music and snow and bonfires, torches, candles, hot chocolate and ‘Glühwein’ (Hot red wine with cinnamon and other spices).
But you can always find some quiet place with no other people at a castle wall and you’re standing there in the cold night, snuggled together under your SO’s coat (it’s always warmer in there!) while huge snowflakes are falling down on you and you can overview the whole city, lit up with christmas lights. You stand there in the complete silence of the snow sorrounding you and you can hear nothing but the distant noise of the christmas market and your SO’s breath. This is so beautiful, you wouldn’t believe it.
We had our first kiss in a similar scenery, with all the lights and snow, so I’m really hoping he’ll be proposing just like that.
Post # 13
I kind of am…we talked about December to March. I’m hoping it falls in that window 😊
Post # 14
I’d love to join! We’ve already decided on a general wedding time (Sept 2019) but in the time before then we’ll be moving to an apartment in a new city, both of us getting new jobs, and then buying a house and getting a dog. Plus I’m generally a pretty anxious person and my family is in another state (my mom and I are excited to plan together) so it makes sense to have a long engagement.
He’s saving up for his “dream ring” for me (it makes him happy) and we’ll go pick it out together. He said he’ll be financially ready in winter. So… December to February I guess? Really excited!
Post # 15
Ahhh.. SO has mentioned a timeline of end of August (not possible as I think he’s still talking to the ring designer) to October (which is our 4th anniersary). I’m kicking myself because I want to talk about it all the time and I want to know when the ring is ready.. because a few weeks ago, he mentioned she didn’t find a diamond to show him yet. He told me he won’t tell me when it’s ready because he wants it to be a complete surprise and I’m someone who always like to guess when it’s happening. It’s driving me crazy though!