(Closed) Expensive bachelor(ettes)

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i totally agree! everything has gotten so out-of-hand lately. i can’t see how people can spend thousands of dollars on engagement parties and bachelor parties and rehersal dinners, plus the wedding. asking people to pay for a party for yourself is outrageous to me.

i actually just got invited to a “bachelorette cruise.” it was like $350 for the cruise, another $350 for the flight to get there, plus who knows how much for extras and time off of work. and i’m not even part of the wedding party!

for my bachelorette party, we are going out to dinner and then to a bar for drinks. my girls won’t have to pay for anything but food and drinks- and i feel like that’s the way it should be!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m having a semi-expensive bachelorette party (We’re getting a hotel for 2 nights and going to the Kentucky Derby) but I don’t expect all six of my bridesmaids to shell out lots of money to be there. If they can and want to come awesome. If not, no big deal. 

Maybe your husband can go to his brother’s bachelor party and politely decline the other one?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@kay01:  Whoa thats excessive!!!

For my bachelorette the girls organized a pole dancing lesson (with stripper) dinner then games back at a BM’s house, it all cost $95 per person and included all drinks, snacks and transport as well!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t fully read your post

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@kay01:  I think he shouldn’t feel bad saying no. Sorry, I just read the rest of your post. When a bride or groom plans something expensive they should discuss it beforehand with their bridal party or other groomsmen. I would never want to put someone in an uncomfortable position. All my friends are single and make around 6 figures so it was a no-brainer for us.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it depends on your circle of friends. It is normal in our group to spend 1k-1500 on a bachelor(ette) party weekend getaway amongst our friends. No one does just 1 night outings. But I understand this isn’t the norm for everyone and wasn’t offended when a few of my girlfriends were unable to attend my bachelorette cruise to Mexico. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, that’s a lot to ask of your friends I think.  For my bachelorette we had brunch at one of the bridesmaid’s house, went to a winery for a tour/tasting ($5.00pp), played mini-golf ($8.00pp) and went for dinner and then came back and played board games at home.  I’m fairly sure even with treating me they had to contribute less than $50pp.

I think some of these pre-wedding celebrations are getting a little out of hand.  That said, DH did go to Vegas for his, but only with his two best buddies, and they always “mancation” together every year anyway.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@yellowshoe:  I agree. We are going to Jamaica for my bachelorette.

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

That is ridiculous!!! Why wouldn’t you just say no? FI and I have declined many outrageous weddings/ bachlorette/bachelor events as we don’t have $2000 eaxtra to drop on each (One was a wedding in Mexico, in JULY, at a $450 a night resort. I’m still not over the audacity of them even inviting us.)

We’d much rather have money in the bank to establish our lives and get out of debt.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m not having a bachelorette party. I’m having a bridal shower before I leave CA and then the day before my wedding is a day for just my MoH and me. We’re going to do a movie, massage, lunch, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner and then go to bed.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I have to agree that the expectations are getting out of hand. I think there is a “keping up with the Jonses” mentality, and our constant exposure to reality TV where everyone spend money like there is no tomorrow makes it even worse.

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