Expensive Ballroom Wedding Down To A Simpler Restaurant Wedding. Will I Regret?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

westcoast_girl:  Not me, but I attended my gf’s restaurant wedding a few years ago and I thought it was very nice. Actually jealous of the simplicity of her wedding affair! I think what made it wedding-y was the following: (1) She chose a 3 star Michelin restaurant that featured the food in absence of an open bar or dancing/entertainment. (2) She still had a string trio or quartet providing background music. (3) She still provided wine service for the tables. I don’t remember the flowers or decorations at all so I think you don’t have to spend much in that way.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

westcoast_girl:  I second the suggestion for a fancy restaurant. I’m holding my reception at a James Beard award winning restaurant with 5+ courses, which I think is key, since people are always interested in food and multiple courses will keep them engaged for a couple of hours. For flowers we’re doing Costco. I think realistically, you have to expect that people will leave after dinner if there is no dancing, though. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not sure what area you’re located in, but I know you can try local gardens, or in our case, we found a cute little Victorian home to have our ceremony and reception at. They also do catering too. And it’s a great price! We are on a super tight budget. I know weddings are ridiculous and expensive, but there are options out there! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I dislike traditional ballroom weddings and usually find them boring and predictable: same food, DJ, decor (Before anybody yells at me, I’m sure your ballroom wedding was lovely).  I prefer restaurants and venues that are reliant on the quality of their food; the meals are usually more innovative and exciting than chicken/beef + potatoes + veggies.

Restaurant weddings generally have all the same elements (guest book, favours, centerpieces, background music, toasts, cake cutting), just no dance floor.  But depending on the level of privacy, there’s probably enough room for you and your FI to have a first dance.  Your wedding will be lovely no matter where you have it! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had a small family wedding and had the reception on the patio of our favorite local Italian restuarant.  I loved the low key simplicity of it.  Plus, including alcohol and food, our reception was about $1500.  It was a remarriage for both of us, but I still thought it was much more fun than the big. blown out, costly ordeal.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

westcoast_girl:  I had a restaurant wedding, but a very small one and I LOVED it. If I’d had more money I could’ve made it more wedding-y, but it was so lovely and intimate.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

westcoast_girl:  I didn’t miss the dancing! I think it depends on your friends, whether they’re the type to be more low key or party it up. If they do like to party it up, you guys could certainly hold an after party at a bar or club when dinner is over. 😛

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

westcoast_girl:  Our guests really loved it.  The food was really good and we really got to talk and mingle with everyone, since it was so small.  Everyone had a great time.

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Post # 12
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Worker bee

I’m having a restaurant ceremony/reception and I’m SO excited.  I knew ballroom was out due to cost. We are doing Maggiano’s.  Out of all the weddings I’ve been to, I only remember that one because the food was phenomenal.  We aren’t doing traditional stuff- no first dance, garter/bouquet toss.  I just want good food, good alcohol, and good dancing for my guests!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

westcoast_girl:  We had our wedding at a Ballroom (the name of the place is Pollywog’sTown Ballroom lol), but it wasn’t fancy. It was a bar you go to get black out drunk in with amazing food. It was absolutely perfect and way, way cheaper than a hotel ballroom. It hadthe best open bar people had ever had (it was a bar the other 6 days as week and would open up to the public 1 hour after our reception, they had 10 kegs tapped because they went through them all). It was classy and wonderful, but not stuffy.

I recommend checking out slightly off the beaten path venues like mine. A bar can be amazing, so can a restaurant. My reception was under $20k for a Saturday night in a major city for 160 people, top shelf liquor, lots of food, and a fantastic location. At a hotel the same reception would be $50k. It was expensive, but it was worth it for us.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

westcoast_girl:  My sister in law is doing this. No dancing, just talking and chatting. I am sure it will be wonderful, but it depends on your circle. Many people hate dancing. If you have a reason for people to get up from their tables and mingle it is wonderful.

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