Expensive dress at a budget wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you judge a bride who's dress is a very large percentage of her overall budget?
    Yes : (125 votes)
    70 %
    No : (46 votes)
    26 %
    Other - I'll explain in the comments : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Normally I would say no, however, in this case you mentioned, then yes.

    If the guests are treated decently, then it really doesn’t matter how much the dress costs, or what percentage of the budget it was.

    But, if the dress is super spendy and the guests are paying for their own booze, then yes, I can’t help but judge that.

    Post # 4
    5208 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @nocleverbeepun:  If you want to spend the majority of your budget on the gown, then elope and wear it. I mean, why bother to even have the event if you are going to show the guests a crappy time? The dress would have looked the same in elopement pictures.

    Post # 7
    1367 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I said other.  In this case, I would judge, since $10K can go a LONG way towards food, drinks etc.

    But if a wedding was in a backyard for $1000 I wouldn’t judge a bride for spending say $300 on a dress.  Or if a wedding was $100K and the dress was $25K, I’d be envious but not judgey.

    Post # 8
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    If the guests feel cheaped out on, and the bride is bragging about the dress cost then that’s tacky.

    Post # 9
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If the expensive dress was in lieu of properly hosting the guests, hell yes.  If you expect me to pay for a cocktail to drink with my grocery store sandwich platter meal while you prance around in a designer dress, I will throw a lot of shade.

    Post # 10
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If I hosted properly (open bar (whether beer and wine only or full – or even dry, if I have sodas – NO CASH BARs), plenty of yummy food, good DJ/band…spend whatever you want on your dress! But if the bride is talking about how much her dress cost and skimped on thanking her guests, then she is a poor host and I’d judge. Of course I wouldn’t say anything (and she’ll end up on a forum later saying “I had a cash bar and no one minded!”) but then…once manners go out the window most people don’t find them later.

    Post # 11
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes I would judge. I’m sacrificing a lot to be able to put quality food on the table and provide alcohol for my guests. I’m cutting on expenses I would have liked the ”luxury” to afford, such as flowers or accessories for myself, to provide for them. As PPs said, if a dress is the only splurge in your budget but everything else takes care of your guests properly, then it’s not a problem. But if people are treated like garbage just for the sake of wearing an over-the-top expensive dress, and brag about it all evening, then yes, I’ll judge. I’d rather you eloped and had your selfish moment with your selfish self. 😉

    Post # 12
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Maybe she was saying the dress was more than it really was because she did have a low budget?

    Either way, pretty tacky to brag about it IMO.

    Post # 13
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My dress cost 50% of the budget (it was a gift. The wedding cost 4k, and my dress was 2k!)

    And I would TOTALLY judge the bride for that. I fed and provided booze and comfortable chairs for my guests. Having a wildly expenive dress? Awesome!

    Having a wildly expensive dress at the cost of your loved one’s comfort? Awful.

    Post # 14
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Jeeze, Im not majorly a judgy person when it comes to what people spend on their dress…..but holy cow a $10,000 dress and your friend ate off disposable dishes? um excuse me?

    My wedding is costing $24,000+ and I spent $635 on my dress, but im not going to go around at my wedding and tell people what I spent on my dress no matter how little or how much I spent….in fact I would NEVER let my guests know how much any part of the wedding is, thats just bad taste and makes people uncomfortable.

    Post # 15
    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @nocleverbeepun:  Usually i’d say its the brides choice to spend as she wishes but if there’s that much of a difference i’d find it strage.. personally I wouldn’t feel comfortable spending that much on a dress if I couldn’t also supply a descent reception for my guests!

    $10K is a big chunk of money, so to spend that but use plastic plates to me is bizzare!

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