Post # 1
EDIT: This is a gift I’d be paying for, I’d never ask anyone to shell out that money on a necklace for my day
I’ve been necklace hunting for my bridesmaids necklaces for some time…but every time I find something all I can do is compare it to the Queen Anne’s Lace necklace on BHLDN. I think it would look absolutely STUNNING with the dress everyone picked, and if I were a Bridesmaid I’d be over the moon if I received that necklace as a gift! But the price tag is HUGE at $280! That’s a huge PRICETAG and that’s way more than I spent on any of my accessories…but that necklace is just so perfect for them!
What my bridesmaids are paying for:
Their gowns at $146 (they insisted on paying)
Their shoes (I’m just going to give them a color and let them pick what they want)
Hair/Makeup (I’m fine with them doing their own hair and makeup but I think they’re all going to pay to have it done)
Some of the bridal shower? Or maybe all of it? Hosting etc…
Bachelorette party if we have one?
What I’m paying for:
Their gifts…I’m doing a plush robe for day to day use and a lovely necklace that I’m hoping will look amazing at the wedding and be something they’d love to own in general.
But I could potentially insist on paying for hair/makeup if I don’t do the necklace….
Even with them paying $145 for the dress it’s an extremely extravagantly priced necklace…but would you consider those necklaces for your girls? I have 3 regular bridesmaids and one junior.
Post # 3
If my friend asked me to pay $280 for a necklace I would laugh at her. Find something else, unless your bms are all rich heiresses there is no way a $280 necklace they are wearing for a few hours is worth it.
Post # 4
I don’t like the necklace. I would not wear it. If I was your bridesmaid and you insisted I wear it for the wedding, I would. Other than that, it would be put in a drawer and potentially given to someone who might like it.
280 dollars is a metric fartload of money. If you want them to have that necklace, fine. You pay for it.
If a bride said, “You need to pay me 280 dollars for your gift” I’d stare at her like she was on drugs, and then promptly laugh at her.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t buy it. People have wildly different taste, and it’s quite possible that most of them will wear it day of then never wear it again because it’s not their style. I use this as inspiration and try to find a similar version that isn’t pricey.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think some people missed the part about you buying the necklaces as a gift.
I do like that necklace a lot, but $280 is an insane amount of money. You can find something similar and cheaper for sure. Etsy is a good place to start…
Post # 7
@chasesgirl: She didn’t say she wanted them to buy it, it’s a gift she wants to get for them.
Post # 8
I don’t think OP is saying she wants to ask her BMs to pay for the necklace. She’s saying would you spend that much money on a BM gift for your girls?
My answer is no, that’s insane. I would have a hard time spending that on myself, much less on my BMs (times THREE!) I would search around Etsy to see if there are any similar styles you like. There has to be something.
Post # 9
I’m not a fan of the necklace. Also, anything that they will be required to wear at the wedding shouldn’t be considered their gift. I think that all bridesmaids gifts should be personal and not an accessory for them to wear at your wedding
Post # 10
If I found out my friend spent $280 dollars on a gift for me for her wedding ai would still think she was insane. It’s not $280 pretty at all. You really want to spend $1000 on necklaces your bms may never wear again? I still say that is a poor plan and waste of money.
Post # 11
The necklace is okay, I don’t think it’s a perfect match for the dresses. I definitely wouldn’t spend that much on it! You could search through lace necklaces on Etsy, or even find your own lace edging and put it together as a necklace, if you really like the look.
Post # 12
That is a huge gift. But with that money you could help pay for other things, either for them or for your wedding. Just like lolot said, there are some great ones on Etsy and they’re more like $25-$40. I do think the necklace is really pretty but there are some on Etsy I like just as much, if not more.
Also, I really like the dress you posted. Is that your bridesmaids dress that they got for $145? If it is, can you let me know where you found it? That’s almost exactly what I’m looking for, for my bridesmaids 😉
Post # 13
I would not pay $280 for that for anyone. I personally don’t like it, and it’s way too expensive.
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@sunsetchristy: @Amayansong: I was about to suggest Etsy.com, too!
Post # 16
it’s not my taste. Sorry D: