Post # 1
I’ve gotten different opinions from my friends regarding destination weddings. One friend said she would flat out not attend unless it was at an all inclusive. One friend said she would prefer it NOT at an all inclusive because the food is better, and the drinks are watered down. Another friend said she would just stay at a different resort. Just wondering what you guys think.
How important is all inclusive to you, if you were to attend a destination wedding?
Post # 2
I think it can depend what country your DW is in because some people feel safer at big resorts in places like Jamaica, mexico, etc… My sense is that most people prefer all-inclusives, generally speaking. They could always stay somewhere else if they prefer.
Post # 3
honestly all inclusive vacations are very good deals, but your friend is right. It is very easy to get caught up in the resort and not actually do anything unique to where you are. Yes the food isn’t all that great (thought there are usually some great options) so go into a local town for dinner a couple nights. Yes the drinks are often not as strong, and they usually use small cups, but they are UNLIMITED so that shouldn’t matter. You will save money by going to an all inclusive, even when you add in day trips to go into town and have some fancier dinners.
Post # 4
Unless you are immediate family or my BFF, I am not likely to attend your DW. I still don’t understand why anyone thinks it’s ok to ask their guests to spend thousands of dollars to attend your wedding so you can save thousands of dollars.
Post # 5
julies1949: Actually pretty much all my friends are excited by the idea.
The reason behind it is not to save money. It’s so I don’t end up with 200 person wedding, all of them being family I haven’t seen since I was like 13. Maybe 10 friends, if, IF there is enough room for them.
Post # 6
I can see how an all-inclusive resort might be more appealing for people who don’t particularly enjoy travelling, since you know all the costs upfront and everything is taken care of.
I don’t think I would ever stay at an all-inclusive. I love travelling and if I’m spending money on a holiday, I want to choose my own hotel and eat at restaurants I’ve selected. My FI and friends are the same.
Post # 7
julies1949: Not all destination weddings are cheaper (mine is six figures). If people don’t want to or can’t attend they won’t attend, it is as simple as that. No one is “forced” to spend anything they don’t want to spend. Do you think it is ok for people to have a local wedding but still invite guests who live out of town and would have to spend thousands of dollars to attend, or should all wedding invitations only be sent to people who live within driving distance of the ceremony and reception? It is the same concept with a destination wedding.
OP, have your wedding where you want to have it. If people want to go they will go, if not they won’t, it is that simple.
Post # 8
MangoSong: Depends where it is. For us, all inclusives in places like the Dominican Republic/Mexico work out WAY cheaper than B&B/self-catered accommodation as you can get package deals (most tour operators offering package deals to those locations only offer all inc). So in those places I prefer AI for cost reasons.
In Europe on the other hand AIs are massively over-priced and I always book everything separately and choose self-catered accommodation where possible (it’s really cheap to eat out in a lot of places too).
Also, no way would I stay anywhere that anyone else was staying. I’d begrudge using our holiday time to attend a wedding as it was, and would only do it for a really close friend; so I would want to stay somewhere of our choosing where we can still have a holiday as a couple. Our annual holiday is very precious to us as a couple and we wouldn’t want to share it with other people.
Post # 9
MangoSong: If I love you enough to fly for your wedding I’m likely to stay wherever you’re holding the wedding, assuming it’s reasonably priced for the area (if it’s the Ritz Central Park I’m cabbing it, haha). It’s just so fabulously easy to stay at the same place that the wedding is being held, and I’m not picky. Personally I’d love to go to a DW, I’m someone who has the funds and desire but not the motivation to travel, so it takes something like a wedding to part me from my hard-earned savings.
That being said I can see julies1949’s point to some degree. For example, if my brother decided to have a DW in Austraila or Japan or somewhere else that would cost me at least 3k to attend, I don’t have a choice, he’s my brother, I’m going. He could get married on the moon and I’d have to figure it out, I’d do pretty much anything short of selling a kidney to attend his wedding. For lots of people who attend a DW (immediate family) it’s less of a choice and more of an obligation. But I assume brides who choose to have a DW know their guests, their interest, and at least generally what they can afford, so I’m sure they’re respectful of that.
Post # 10
I’ve been planning a Dw for almost a year now and it just depends on if the person wants to go or not when it comes down to it. We had people tell us they can’t go and it’s no hard feelings because no matter what your asking someone to take a vacation and spend cash. I’ve just tried to help people find the best deal to go but thankfully for me it’s vegas So to go it’s pretty cheap.
Post # 11
I went to a non all-inclusive DW in a SE Asian country and it was great, so much more flexibility with where to eat and drink (although most stayed at the same hotels).
Post # 12
MangoSong: the only way i would attend a destination wedding is if it was family. I am not going to spend a couple of hundred dollars and maybe even close to a thousand dollars to a wedding. On top of all that a bridal shower gift, what if you get invited to the bach party, maybe they even had an engagent party. Its too much for me.
Post # 13
MangoSong: of I’m spending a good amount of money on a flight and room I sure as he’ll want it all inclusive! Depending on where exactly it is, most of the time the food is pretty good at AI resorts!… In regards to watered down drinks, I’m not a big drinker so I don’t really care about that.
Post # 14
MrsTywinLannister: Exactly my thoughts. Not to mention, the more I look into it, and the more I plan, you are absolutely right about the costs. I kind of wished I hadn’t put the option for “wouldn’t come” in the poll, because like you said, if the people don’t want to come, they won’t. <br /><br />
For the record, it would be in the carribean, and I’m trying to keep the costs reasonable for my guests. My friends are I go on a small vacation together every year, and for us, this is just a bigger, better one, with us getting catered to. They are actually super excited… it’s just been a debate of a/inc vs. non/inc.
Daizy914: DW work a little differently, and I personally am totally okay with not having an engagement party, shower, bach. We’ve lived together for quite some time, so there’s not a lot we need in terms of household items. As for the bach, my girls at the bar? Dinner? Stuff we do anyway.
AND As MrsTywinLannister: pointed out – how is it any different then “local” weddings when you are from out of town? I attended 4 of those this year, and EACH could have been the same price, not to mention, I also had to take off work.
Post # 15
MangoSong: I’m have a DW also, when we told everyone last May when and where everyone was super excited to go. Now that we are a month out, we have 13/25 confirmed with 2 on the fence. So don’t be surprised or disappointed if people that are excited now don’t end up going.