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My sweet FI loves to clean (great, I know!) but sometimes he can go a bit over board. Last night was one of those nights. It all started with a missing pair of basketball shorts. The shorts have been missing for a week and it was driving him crazy, so last night while I was sleeping, FI stripped our little house top to bottom. He scrubbed the floors, dusted the light fixtures, cleaned the oven, did a ton of laundry and threw out lots and lots of junk that had accumulated. AWESOME!
When I woke up, I wandered into our office and just so happened to notice that my "pile of wedding crap" was a wee bit shorter than it looked the day before. A bit alarming, if you will. But I shrugged it off, showered, and went to work. Well, once at work, it dawned on me that something very, very important was missing from my "pile of wedding crap". The bag that my cathedral length veil was in. I called FI. He said "oh my god, that's what that fluffy white shit was!" My heart sunk to filthy depths.
I came home from work, put on old sweats and a Tshirt, with big yellow cleaning gloves and I jumped into the massive dumpster. (with FI by my side of course). We dug through boxes and bags of cat poo, beer cans, used TAMPONS, rotting food, and more... It is hot as hell, there are flies everywhere. I even threw up from the smell. Still no veil. We are taking a break, re hydrating ourselves, and trying one last time.
The chances that it is untouched are slim to none. But I need to SEE it for myself....if that makes sense. But if it IS untouched, by some miracle, do I really want to wear somnething from a DUMPSTER on my wedding day?
If I order a new one, it won't come in time for my fitting. It would be here for the wedding...but still. I'm so sad. And I smell like shit.
I'm so sorry! I really would not want it after it being in the dumpster. From now on, he should not throw things away if he doesn't know what they are!
I didn't have my veil for the fitting, don't worry about it not being here for that.
OMG! So sorry to hear that!! You are making a valient effort though-- at least you can still get one in time for the wedding! Good luck!
That's terrible! I'm sorry you have this disappointment to deal with right now.
Here's my e-shoulder to e-cry on.
Oh yuck! Hopefully you'll find your veil. Just keep thinking that one day you and your husband will look back on this and laugh!
OH NO!
That SUCKS...big time.
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. Your FI must feel awful. :(
If you do find it, there MUST be a way to get the veil professionally cleaned (if you decide to use it). Someone in the hive must know.
I'm wishing you good luck on the finding factor, or if that doesn't work, I'm wishing for a BIG glass of wine for you and that you can rush order a new veil.
@helenberrycrunch: Thank you for the e shoulder. That put a smile on my face for a second!
My thoughts are with you while you are in a dumpster - I really hope you find it!
Ack!!! Oh no!!!!! You should put some yellow "caution" tape around your wedding corner and FI is not allowed to enter that zone! Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear about this mess you're in! I hope you find it, and I'm sure the dry cleaner or someone can clean it/de-scent it for you. Keep us posted! ((hugs!!))
PS- Try the old trick of putting some Vicks Vaporub under your nose, it's supposed to help a lot!
I have a plain, cut-edge cathedral veil that I made for my first dress that I would be happy to finish and send to you! I need to clean up the edge a bit and sew the comb on, but other than that, it's finished. It's a drop veil, but could easily be gathered to a regular one. It's only $8 worth of fabric, so I wouldn't be sorry to see it go for free.
Here's a pic of it with my old dress. It's diamond white.
Sending a great big hug! So impressed you braved the dumpster though! What a Wonder-Woman!
UPDATE: We found it! At the bottom, of course. Fortunately, it was still in it's bag, under an upside down box so it was faily sheltered from the piles, and piles of hot steamy poo. It did, however, suffer a small amount of damage. There is a tear about one inch long and 2 cm wide at the base of the veil (the dragging part of the cathedral length).... I guess I could have a few inches fo the perimeter cut off and then the tear would be gone. Not sure. It's amazing there are no stains!
Well, whether I wear my dumpster veil or not, I am so happy that FI and I can survive dumpster diving on a holiday in a heat wave without arguing. We look filthy, we smell filthy and when we found it, he stuck it on my head and said "wow, that's even prettier than I imagined". Now, we're making trashy-bride jokes that are only slightly humorous.
@ Zippyleaf--THAT IS SO KIND OF YOU. Thank you so much for your offer. The veil is breathtaking (as is mine right now, but for different reasons...). I will assess the damage further on my dumpster veil and PM you soon.
Hilarious!!!!
Love that he loves the veil and that you guys are making trashy bride jokes I love it!
I am glad this post had a happy ending!!!
I'm so glad you found it! Hopefully any stink won't linger too long, and you'll still be able to use it. Can you just wash it? I'm not sure.
@VirginiaMarie: Is your veil totally finished? I wonder if you could cover the tear with some lace or a lacy applique? I'm SOOOOO glad you found it and that you and FI are joking around and making the best of it. *huge sigh of relief for you*
Oooo those must have been some fancy bball shorts to go through that kind of upheaval :-X I'm glad that you eventually found the veil - I hope you can destink it and wear it fondly on your wedding day! At least it has a story, and you can pass it down to your future children to wear, if they have a sense of humor like you guys :)
FI wants to know if now that you've found the veil if you can send your FH to clean our house, LOL!
Yay! I wonder how you can go about de-stinking it? Can you hang it in the bathroom so the steam will get to it as you and you FI clean up yourselves?
That's great that it's still in really good shape, practically. :)
OMG- :( This is SOME Post!!! Wow- Well, I guess FH will not throw anything away in the future, without at least asking "what is this???" first??!! I feel your pain! My veil got lost-luckily AFTER my wedding. I am assuming someone did the same thing! WT? and threw it out from my mom's house. I had hoped to save it, cause my daughter wouldn't have ever been able to wear my dress- I'm only 4'10"
I have to say, your FI sounds like a great guy, and you sound like a very reasonable bride... some would have had a high-speed-come-apart! I'm sure you couldn't have said or yelled anything at/to him that would hurt worse than knowing he made you sad. So glad to read you found it~
Aw that's awesome that you found it! I'm impressed you braved the dumpster.
oh man.... that seriously sucks!! I hope you can salvage it! One thin silver lining... from previous posts you've done and what you've said about your fiance... I feel like this is going to be one of those forever-stories that is going to be told again and again to your grandchildren :)
Uh, I'm not that dedicated. It's going to be a fun story to tell for the rest of your lives!
Oh noooo!!! Well, you are not alone in dumpster diving...I accidentally tossed my diplomas in a cleaning frency (I kept the fancy folder they gave me at the ceremony and tossed the empty-looking ups envelope they arrived in). I jumped into the dumpster to get them and luckily I found mine. I ended up getting an awesome discount on framing them after I told my story. So...if you don't find it, perhaps a bridal store will take pity on you and give you a good deal on an even better veil?? It is worth a shot.
i would totally wear it - especially after the mess youw ent through to save it from its dumpster death! :)
and as you say it makes for a funny joke - well funnier now that you found it and all but funny nonetheless.
Oh my goodness, what an experience! I'm so glad you managed to retrieve it more or less intact. The plus side of these horrid experiences (with the happy endings) is that they make GREAT stories!
I must say, although he was a little over-enthusiastic with the cleaning this time, your fiance sounds like a great guy to have around! :-)
OH my goodness, you are so much more gracious than me. I would have FLIPPED OUT at my guy if he did that!! "WHY would you think a giant 'pile' of white wedding ANYTHING was something I didn't need and/or needed to be THROWN away!?!?!" is probably what I would have been yelling at him... And you better believe I would have forced HIM to do the diving in the dumpster!! LOL!
I just love that you what you're taking from this more than anything is that you appreciate so much that you and FH "survive dumpster diving on a holiday in a heat wave without arguing." And are even able to joke about it already! You sound like a truly amazing couple. You'll have many more memorable stories like this one to come, I'm sure! :)
Oh you guys are all too sweet, thank you for the kind compliments. We work well together, and I'm glad it was resolved. We showered up, took puppy out for a walk and are heading out to see fireworks soon. It was an interesting day for sure, but I kept pretty cool-- hey, when you're in a dumpster the only thing you can have going for you is your attitude!!!
But there are a few things that turn me into a psycho: Mrs. Crazy. I despise her. I cannot wait to get her RSVP back, I pray daily that she cannot make the wedding. Any type of disrespect. and Liars. Other than those things, I am pretty hard to tick off!
Happy 4th to you all and thanks for the support, as always ;)
My daughter had two veils for her wedding one i think cathedral length and the other fingertip. she ended up wearing the fingertip. what color is your dress? I could see if she would be willing to sell it. it was beautiful. I would have to get pics of it for you. the veil was ivory. let me know if we can help. I will be glad to call her.
Once when I was in college (I went to a big party school) I went to throw away some trash and when my bag hit the dumpster, I heard something cry out. "OMG!" I thought, "Someone has left their baby in the dumpster!!!!!!!!!" I kept hearing the crying, really soft-- almost like a mewing. So I knew it was either a baby (infant) that someone had abandoned, or a kitten that someone had tried to kill. I FREAKED OUT, and jumped (in December, in the rain) into the dumpster with all of my clothes on. I dug for probably 30 minutes all the while my heart racing and praying that the baby/kitten was okay. I finally found it, buried at the bottom--
A plastic Halloween witch toy that was supposed to go "BOOOOOOOOOO!" but whose batteries had wound down and who now went "Waaahhhh".
I had to laugh to keep from crying.
I'm so glad there was a happy ending! Sounds like you guys need to establish a process for cleaning up each other's stuff so that this doesn't happen again :) Ours is to put anything that's not obviously junk on the other's desk (we have our own studies). I guess other people might use boxes or spaces in a shared room? Imagine the story your veil will have to tell :)
OMG that's craziness. Glad you found it.
I just clean around FI's stuff (piles of mail etc) then make sure to say "Can you go thru that crap?" when I get tired of seeing stuff sitting around (and he does the same to me).
I'm also trying to keep my wedding stuff as organized as possible so everything doesn't look like a constant mess it's tough trying to work on and complete one project at a time.
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