Extending invitations to MIL's chosen guests??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do we respond to their financial contribution by:
    letting them choose a specific number of guests : (2 votes)
    40 %
    keeping the guest list as-is, intimate and special to us : (3 votes)
    60 %
    retaining power over the guest list but inviting several couples they know that we do not : (0 votes)
    canceling the wedding and eloping ;) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MlleDarcy:  Is it possible to talk with them and negotiate?

    We talked with each set of parents. My parents wanted to invite 4 or 5 couples (out of a guest list of 120), but after discussion we settled on inviting 2 couples. (I had known these couples since childhood, DH didn’t know them or had maybe met them once).

    I’m wondering why they would want to invite someone who has never met their son, and why such a person would even want to attend. But if they suggest someone DH knows (e.g. long time neighbours), it sounds like a win-win to invite them.

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