Post # 1
I still have not gotten RSVP’s from some of our guests. I did a first draft of the seating chart and there not many empty chairs. Should I get an extra table for the reception, just in case some of these people show up? (most of these people are FIL’s co-workers and they will “forget” to ask them or get their phone #’s).
Has anybody ever had more people show up than planned? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
You have to decide if you are willing to plan for and pay for extra food that might not be eaten. If you are willing to do that, then get the extra table. If not, then you have to have the catering staff or your coordinator inform any guests that did not RSVP that there is no space set up for them because THEY did not RSVP their intentions. I strongly suggest you call the missing RSVPs to get an idea of whether they are coming or not. Then definitely use escort cards or a displayed seating chart. The guests not listed will get the hint pretty quick.
Post # 4
I have been calling but there are just a few people I don’t even know. I don’t have their phone numbers and I’ve asked FIL’s to ask them but they never do. I will def have the escort cards and displayed seating chart. I just picture being upset when they are not listed because THEY did not rsvp. I guess it’s their problem then?
Post # 5
I once read on another thread that it would be rude to invite someone and then turn them away at the door, even though they didn’t RSVP. And while I think it’s just as rude not to RSVP, I had to concede the point. You should plan to accommodate these people if at all possible.
In reality, it’s your FIL’s responsibility to follow up with their own guests. I’m sorry they’re not showing you the courtesy of getting you the information you need to plan a successful party. If you have their mailing addresses but not their phone numbers, maybe you can send out a reminder card, asking for their reply? Otherwise just shoot for the middle ground and plan for half of them to show up and half not to.