- 5 years ago
Before I dive in, a preface with some background info…
My SO and I are in a LDR currently (separate continents, 7,000 miles apart) and have been for almost two and a half years, but have been together for almost four and a half. We’re not engaged because we haven’t seen each other in a year, but the plan has been to get engaged when I return home (end of Feb. 2013) and then get married six months later (Oct. 2013) to readjust to being together and to give my family some time to get used to the idea.
Enter the present…
Yesterday randomly in a phone conversation SO (I REALY want to call him FI…how much does having a ring yet or not matter?) said, “What would you think about getting married right when you get back instead of waiting?” I’m never speechless, but I was then. I asked why and he said maybe it wasn’t the most sensical idea for me to pay rent, utilities, moving costs, etc. to live in my own apt when I get back for six months (we don’t want to live together until we’re married) and that was $5k that could be saved and put toward our down payment fund since we’re looking at buying a house within two years.
Also he said all the wonderful things he should say like I know I want to be with you and I don’t think I want to wait, I just want us to start our lives together, etc. He wasn’t only thinking about money and practiality.
I KNOW I’m going to marry this man, but thinking about getting married in just a few months when I’m so far away from where it would happen sets my heart to racing. The plan was always to keep it simple (family-only ceremony, brunch reception following, no over-the-top decor or anything). My questions are these:
WHERE could I look into doing something like this literally a few days after I arrive back into the country?
Do you think I would be able to work out enough small details (a simple short dress from a dept store or the like, small boquet, etc.) right after I get back to make it feel wedding-y enough?
Sorry if I got too wordy…I’m just having a hard time wrapping my brain around everything and trying to figure out what I think about it all. I KNOW you ladies are master planners, and I’d love to hear your thoughts!