Post # 1
Hello All, I have a question for you guys. I want a simple wedding dress but none of my friends or family think its a good idea. They want me to “stand out”. I want to look clean, simple and easy. I’m not big on tight or poofy dresses with bling. I was thinking something more like the following (let me know what you guys think:
Post # 3
I like the 2nd one, it is still simple like you want but a little dressier 🙂
I think want YOU want is very important, if you will be more comfortable in a dress like the ones you have posted then wear one. Wearing a poofy ball gown to please your family isnt a good idea if you’ll feel uncomfortable the whole time. Plus no-one ever mistakes who the bride is regardless of what they are wearing, they are the ones with the HUGE smiles 🙂
Post # 4
I like the 2nd one better but I must say that I am not a super huge fan of either. There are TONS of simple, gorgeous dresses out there. You might check out J Crew and Aria.
I think that if you want something simple and casual, then do it. It’s your wedding and you need to feel comfortable in what you are wearing.
Post # 5
Neither one of them says “wedding” to me, more like “resort wear”.
In the end, it doesn’t really matter what I think though. It’s what you like that counts.
This recent post has a number of links to simple dresses:
Post # 6
I agree with PPs, esp. @julies1949:. Both of the posted gowns seem more “fancy casual wear” to me rather than wedding. There are many simple, sleek, and stylish wedding gowns that give the bridal vibe without a lot of fuss. The thread she linked back to had a ton of examples. Overall, though, follow your heart and wear what YOU like, because those will be your memories to have.
Post # 7
Alot of the “destination” type wedding dresses are simple. Mine was fairly simple and I had a jacket made.
Post # 8
Wear whatever you want! Plenty of brides figure that out and don’t wear a wedding dress or white for that matter. Check out offbeat bride for plenty of brides wearing different dresses for their wedding and still looking beautiful!
Post # 9
I personally love both the dresses you posted. i too will be wearing a plain white calvin klein gown. don’t get me wrong, i adore wedding gowns and love looking at all the ladies in them on here, but they simply are not my aesthetic. it look a long time to find a dress since even white bridesmaid gowns tended to be a little too fancy for me. I would pay no attention if people say your dress looks like resort wear. I think plain and clean is the epitome of chic and timeless dressing. Think of Carolyn Bessette Kennedy. her wedding was how many years ago? Still to this day, her look is relevent, undateable, and flawless.
Post # 10
Personally, I think the dresses you posted just look like long t-shirts that have been belted. There are lots of simple dresses available that look more bridal.
That being said, it’s your wedding and you should wear what makes you feel comfortable and beautiful. If those dresses fit your vision, then go for it.
Post # 11
Love them Both!
you should check out eastsidebride.com she posts waaaay Rad dresses similar to those
Post # 12
The first dress looks like a t-shirt to me. The second I like better, but I still think you’d be better served going to some wedding dress shops and just telling them you want something absolutely simple. Both of those look like dresses I’d wear (maybe in another color) to a cocktail event, even to a wedding as a guest.
Also, how formal is your wedding? A backyard bbq would probably work with those dresses, but they’d likely be too casual for a standard evening reception for the bride herself.
Post # 13
Screw what everyone else thinks.
You will regret it if you wear something that everyone else deems “BRIDAL” if you don’t love it yourself.
Check out J. Crew. I wore the simple Gracie gown and loved it.
Post # 14
both via eastsidebride.com
Post # 15
I liked the second dress you posted, it reminds me somewhat of elegant vintage. You can’t go wrong with that, and it’s your wedding. Just go with what you want to wear, it’s your big day! 🙂
Post # 16
Thanks everyone for helping me on this issue. Here’s some details about my wedding that I wanted to share: Spring wedding, 2pm. Causal-Cocktail Reception. Somewhere between BBQ and Cocktail.
The casualness of my wedding have been an issue for me. My mom want traditional bling/formal. I want fun/casual, a step above BBQ. Since she is helping fund the wedding I feel obligated to add more of her vision. Which I don’t have a problem with. Its all about compromise. However often I feel slighted when making final decisions. In efforts of keep everyone happy I began to give up on things I wanted. Somethings I don’t mind giving up like food. For instance, I wanted a Mac and Cheese bar, she wanted skewers in martini glasses. I gave her that. But the dress is something I feel should represent me.
It is clear that I’m going to have to go dress shopping by myself. . I went shopping with my mom this week and it didn’t go well. She either tried to force me to try on jewel studded trumpet dresses or recommended going to “party” stores.
I’ve showed her pics of what I was thinking and got a luke warm response, “it’s not a wedding dress”. It wasn’t until the last shop when I tried on some Saja dresses that I felt her easing up on her traditional stance. She wanted me to purchase it on the spot. While they were beautiful, they weren’t for me.
Don’t get me wrong, my mom is great. She has been a blessing with helping this wedding. Its just that we have two completely different styles and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by totally disregarding her opinions. I guess thats really my issue.
@fiver: Thanks for the lead to eastsidebride. Its a cool site. Funny that you recommended the Ombre Button Down dress, it was on my initial dress roundup months ago, but was QUICKLY shot down by everyone I showed. Where do you live, we should go dress shopping together, LOL.