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I haven't seen it in years, is the bride and groom smashing cake into eachother's faces still a trend? Is anyone here doing it? Did you discuss it, or did it just happen? If you have done it, how did you feel?
Curious, thanks!
My DH and I were both on the same page when it came to this...NO WAY. I just don't see why you would want to publicly humiliate/disrespect your spouse on the day you have devoted yourself to them in front of the most important people in his or her life. That's just a different kind of love than what we have. My brother did it (10 years ago) but I always thought it was a real jerk move because my SIL didn't want him to.
We talked about it and won't be doing the cake smashing at our reception.
To me, I've always thought the feeding one another cake was symbolic of providing for one another now that you are husband and wife, etc.- so I see it as sort of a disrespect thing .
This is one trend/tradition that I absolutely hate and will definitely not be doing at my wedding.
I completely don't know if this is true but someone told me that there is a statistic out there that says if the couple smashes cake in each other's faces, there is a significantly higher likelihood of divorce. Has anyone else ever heard this before?
We're not doing cake smashing!
I definitely don't want to have cake smashed in my face. I've seen this done at weddings, and while it's funny for the audience, I always thought "That poor girl!" The cake usually ends up in her hair, on her dress, etc. Not something I'd be happy about, considering I hate getting messy!
We might do slight smashing, but we're playful and it suits us. I won't let him completely smash my face though, just a little on the nose.
I don't think that cake smashing correlates to divorce. Some couples are really playful, and the cake smash is a big thing to them, it's fun. I totally understand that! I guess I don't like it when I see it done and one of the two people didn't want it to happen. That's just not nice. But if both want to have a food fight, hey it's your party!
We're totally doing it. We're a very playful couple - he warned me early on that he was really looking forward to smashing cake in my face and that I just just deal with it. 
We'll be nice, though - nothing too ridiculous!
NO WAY!! I told my FI that there is no way he will ruin my hair, make-up, and dress with cake! It's just not cute!
If you're playful and you don't mind, I say go for it! I don't know that we'll do it- but I'm sure we will have a miss-fire on the cakes, and it might get messy. But that's generally because I'm a clumsy bug.
Definitely not! I would be so mad if it got on my hair/dress. FI is buying a new suit for the wedding as well, so I'm sure he'd be pretty upset if I got it all cakey.
HELLS no! we both don't like the idea. keeping things clean :)
I told FI that if he does this, we will be heading to divorce court right after the reception LOL!
No way! I think if a couple talks about it and decides to do it then that's fine. I personally feel that it is disrespectful and we definately will not be doing it at our wedding.
Ugh I'm sorry I hate when people do that!!! If I spend all day getting hair and make-up done I don't want cake on me! hah It's to be eaten not thrown especially when you probably paid so much for it. It isn't classy sorry if you do then cool, but let that be for the after party not the reception with everyone watching. that's just my opinion.
Such a funny thread! I'm turned off by almost ALL reception traditions, including father-daughter/mother-son dances, couple's first dance, garter wearing & tossing, bouquet tossing. I know people love a lot (or all) of that stuff. For some crazy reason the cake smashing thing just cracks me up! I'm open to doing either way, I'll let FI decide. I guess because it's such a SERIOUS day, the idea of being goofy and not taking something so seriously is a little fun to me. Love to hear people hate on it though!!! :) hahhah reminds me of myself with other stuff
haha I said to my FI, we're not smashing cake right and he was like absolutely not so I'm glad we're on the same page.
We definitely did not!! I am stronger than I look and probably would have hurt him...haha. But seriously, why ruin my hair/makeup/dress and start a marriage off with a violent act? We just did the cute 'feeding each other" with a fork =)
If you're a playful couple, I don't see this is at all a bad thing. But we will not be doing it. The last thing I want after spending so much time and money on my attire and beauty stuff for the day is for it to be ruined by cake, and to have to spend ten minutes in the bathroom trying to scrub it off.
Absolutely not! We are doing the cake cutting first thing once we get to the reception, and I don't want to mess up my hair/makeup/dress (that I spent a lot of money on) before the festivities even begin. Besides that I see it as a respect thing, and wouldn't do it regardless.
NO WAY, I'm paying a small fortune on hair, makeup, clothing etc. for someone to smash cake in my face, i could see my self being a widow an hour in if he did that to me. lol
Not full on cake smashing, that's mean and wasteful!
But knowing BF and I, there will be some "accidental" contact of cake with face.
We did it. Well, I did it. I don't see it as disrespectful and we're just the goofy play around type. I told my husband he was more than welcome to cake smash me, but once the moment happened, he didnt want to (he later told me he was afraid of getting cake on my birdcage veil, but I really, really didn't care either way). I did get him though, and he was a good sport (we talked ahead of time that it would be ok though)
I don't want to do it...but at most weddings I've been to, there was this distinct feeling that it was expected by the couple's audience, and if they didn't do it, the bride was made to look stuffy...(people cheering them on, then making disappointed "aw!" sounds/comments, etc.) I am all for the standard traditions, but I don't like this one, and I don't think I should be made to look snobbish or controlling by asking my husband not to do it. Ugh. Anyone else feel this way?
sorry i already told FH that we will be getting an annullment if he does this to me. its disrespectful and so NOT funny.
i guess its one thing if both of you wanna do it and think its cute, but when i spend that much time and $$ trying to look perfect for our special day i will be DAMMED if i will let him smash a REALLY expensive cake in my face.
seriously i would swiftly kick him in the nads....
We did not discuss it prior to our wedding. I really wanted a blue buttercream cake ( I hate fondont) and my fiance was with me when we met with the baker and she was like it stains and you will have to be careful with the feeding of the cake, and he was like it will be fine we should stick with the color. On the way home from the cake appointment I was like you need to be careful when we feed each other but it was never a major disccsion. I guess on wedding day he got so excited about smashing cake in my face that he did not even let me put the piece of cake down before he samshed it in my face big time. A little smashing could have been fun and totally fitting for our personalities and made for cute pictures. But his inner child excitement and over the topness turend a what could have been sweet yet funny moment of the wedding into a nightmare. Our guest were shocked and outraged and you could hear the crickets chirrping in the room even thought I was trying to play it off like it was funny and not I was angry. I had blue all over my face and my arm and my dress. I missed close to half an hour of the reception with my mom, the caterer and a slew of my bridesmaids trying to blot the iceing out of the dress and fix my makeup. Now I am super resentful that I spent all this time planning this wedding and had to miss cause he was such a child and wish we had, had an actual conversation about what was appropriate when it came to cake smashing and what would be cute and funny and what was over the top. I feel vindicated though casue enough people have told him what an a-- he was that he is super remorseful now.
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It's kind of expected in my family, but when I brought it up to FI, he said no way. So, needless to say we won't be doing it at all. I guess that's fine with me though cause I'd probably end up with a bunch going down the front of my dress on accident.
@slevy: I can't believe how much he smashed in your face! That looks like an entire slice. You poor girl!
We definitely had the talk a few times before the reception - we agreed that there would be NO cake catastrophies made on each other's faces. =)
I personally dont see anything wrong with it. I mean not full on annihilating the face of your spouse with delicious pastries but in moderation with the consideration of your spouse plus i think it lightens the mood a lot. A wedding is a party anyways, its a celebration...not a perfectly orchestrated event.
Thanks everyone for your opinions! I'm not having cake, so it isn't really an issue for me, but I hadn't seen it in so long I was wondering if people even were considering it.
If I were having cake, there is no way I would do it. We are goofy together, but our humor is not the prank pulling, laugh at someone else's expense type (not jugjing, but I know that is a common type of humor). We're not having a particularly formal event, anyways, so we don't need anything to lighten the mood. We are doing tons of fun stuff without face-cake (bocce tournament, photobooth, rented a trolley car for transport, karaoke, BM and I are doing Salt n' Pepa Push It after my grandparents leave....).
Nope, way too much money on the dress and make-up. To each their own, but not to me!
My husband was planning for it, even though, I told him I would be upset about it. He didn't because he heard my sister say how my mom thinks it's really disrespectful. My mom always points to a family friend's wedding, the groom got cake all over the bride, they were divorced two years later. Glad that my sister helped me out with that one! I would hate to have to go wash my face and re-do my makeup in the middle of my recepetion. I would have been seriously upset, I think it's really disrespectful and passive-aggressive.
I'm thinking that we might a little bit. It's an important question & I haven't asked the FI yet! :)
This wasn't an option for us. My husband loves cake too much to allow it to "go to waste" like that (the quotations are his exact words, btw!).
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