Post # 1
I am having issues…I love my facebook and put stuff up about my day and status on my wedding. BUT here goes I am NOT inviting everyone on facebook to my wedding so one of them asked me yesterday if they are getting an invite and I wasn’t planning on it. Should I just stop posting stuff there? How do you deal with a situation like that?
Thanks for the help.
Post # 3
@Jshersh71:I think you are in all your right to post whatever you want. People need understand it is a special event not a public one.
Post # 4
I just shrugged off those type of comments…Honestly if it were on fb I wouldn’t even answer it. Or I would just say something vague…but that’s just me.
I have heard that it’s rude to post wedding stuff on fb because you aren’t inviting everyone. I don’t necessarily agree, but I didn’t post much about our wedding. Better safe than sorry, I guess.
Post # 5
Personally, I don’t mention the wedding on FB. I reserve that for weddingbee!!
Post # 6
I post about my wedding on FB every hour I swear…. hahah nobody has asked if they are invited, I have 367 friends on there without any family… that would be a mess! I think I would just say it’s not a FB event invite its a status update lol.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t post about it on FB.
Post # 8
I think you open yourself up to those kinds of questions when you post things about the wedding.
How to handle: Answer their question with a polite response – something like: we wish we could invite everyone, but are planning to have an intimate wedding with just close friends/family. I hope you understand.
As for if you should stop posting: I think it’s a personal decision. I think it’s fine to post about wedding stuff, but do it in limited doses. Everyone doesn’t need to know about every planning detail along the way. I don’t think I posted anything about wedding planning or even getting engaged on FB. It was so personal to me and I wanted to tell people about it myself. I currently have a FB friend who updates WAY too much info on her status updates, IMO. I feel like I’m reading WB threads, when I read her posts. It’s cute and annoying, all at the same time.
Post # 9
Thank you everyone seriously…
Maybe I really should post on here more often, I just don’t talk on the phone with his mom or sisters that much and this is a way I could let them know things are coming along. I did a clean out on my facebook friends so many of them were there because of a class reunion last year but we don’t even chat….
I really do appreciate your input.
Post # 10
@Jshersh71:Just say, I wish we could, but balancing the guest list with my family and his family is really difficult. I’m sorry.
And then give them a hug and keep chatting about whatever you were talking about before.
I’ve had to do it and I only had one post on facebook about our wedding and that in November.
You can keep posting, but also come here and post!
I have a few fb friends getting married this year (whose weddings I am *NOT* invited to) and they post about it A LOT. It’s half cute, half annoying, like
@oracle: said. I ignore it when it’s annoying and I enjoy it when it’s cute.
EDIT: Don’t lie or exaggerate and say it’s a small wedding if it’s not. We’re inviting 230 ish people, but that still doesn’t mean we can invite everyone. However, I know they would be hurt when they saw the photos of 150 ish people there and they knew I called it “small.” But if you are having a small ceremony, definitely say that!
Post # 11
I don’t really post anything about my wedding on facebook. However, if you want to, just create a friend list of those who are invited to the wedding and post only to them.
Post # 12
Yes, I think it’s rude to go on and on about the wedding to people who aren’t invited, and that’s what you are doing when you talk about it on fb constantly.
Post # 13
I post about my wedding on facebook. Like “oh it’s only 8 more months to go!” or “sweet, finally booked a caterer!”. I wouldn’t put someone on the spot by asking them if I’m invited to their wedding on their facebook wall though. It’s the same as posting “going out tonight to celebrate my birthday!” and someone asking if you were planning on taking them out with you.
Post # 14
I post very very little about my wedding on Facebook for that very reason. After a super productive day making invitations I posted a couple pictures. And recently when I mailed out the invitations I posted a vague reference to the point of no return. Beyond that I’ve kept my wedding off facebook.
Post # 15
I don’t post wedding things on facebook since I want to avoid those awkward questions as much as possible. What I did do is make a secret group page for my bridesmaids so that we can discuss wedding details there, I can update on things that are booked and celebrate little wedding things on there. No one else sees it since it’s hidden.
Maybe you can make a group for the mom and sisters and bridesmaids for those important updates, and post to WB for all the details that are usually more important to the bride than everyone else 🙂
Post # 16
I’ve been trying to keep some wedding things out of FB ie like the date and where it’s going to be and stuff. I know I have almost 700 people and I don’t want everyone on there knowing because 95% of them aren’t even invited. And I don’t want those expecting an invite to ask. I talk about it but not overdoing it.
I like the idea of a secret group page.