Post # 1
So I have this friend who is getting married today. We studied abroad together (we didn’t know each other before the trip) and have remained casual friends. I did not expect an invitation to the wedding and was not upset when I didn’t receive one. I also didn’t mind that he would bring up his wedding every time we ran into each other (I assumed he did this because I’m engaged and thought I was interested, which I kind of was). I’m not even upset that his statuses showed up in my news feed with a million wedding updates, because I am perfectly capable of hiding them. What does annoy me is opening the message in my facebook invites to see that he has created a mass fb message to all of his friends so that he can post wedding updates on the day of the wedding (today).
Am I the only one who thinks its rude to give people the play by play to an event they weren’t invited to?
That being said, I guess it doesn’t take that much effort to delete the message. I just think its weird that he set up a twitter stream and had it message me on facebook so that I could hear about him getting dressed ect. I just think its a little weird that he would think anyone that cares that much and yet fail to invite them to the event. End vent.
Post # 3
The age of social media… my thoughts, “Dude, enjoy your wedding and your new wife and get the hell off the internet!” And yes, I agree, kind of douchey of him.
Post # 4
I honestly don’t see the point of that. Spend the time with your family and friends not with your phone and Facebook.
Post # 5
I do think that is a bit odd…and sort of rude. I think it would be one thing if some friends/family members that couldn’t come but would like the up-to-the-minute updates…but for people that aren’t even invited or care to know the latest and greatest of the wedding planning. I know that when I was planning my wedding I kept my updates to a min. and I’m just not that hip to be on twitter lol
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
@asscherlover: As his facebook friend I’d think it’s a bit ridiculous “if you want me to know about every second of your wedding why didn’t you invite me?”, but as you said, you can hide it so no biggie. But, I think it’s rude to his guests “give me a minute I’ll update my facebook” that must be awful etiquette, but to each their own.
Post # 7
Wow. That is annoying. Like, enjoy the moment. That is almost like taking pictures of everything. Enjoy the moment- don’t continuously document!
My cuz is getting married and she posts every little wedding idea on fb. It is like, okay, I have to hear all about your wedding, but am I even invited? I don’t get it.
I don’t get fb in general. It seems like it is for the super confident/ self assured or self obsessed, or like it is for the insecure, or like it is for people that love to brag/ talk about themselves. I just don’t get it. Regardless, yeah, I think that guy should just enjoy his day.
Post # 8
oh apparently they’re streaming the wedding live. So maybe the message was to give everyone access to it?
Post # 9
hahahaha! I’m watching all of the guests sit and wait for the ceremony to start. I would be really weirded out to be one of the guests and get home to find this video.
Post # 10
He’s probably just excited and caught in the moment.
I think I would prefer a news feed full of wedding updates, then of silly cpationed photos.
Post # 11
well seems his wedding isnt all that grand if he has time to face book during! hhahahaha
Post # 12
Haha who does that? That is kinda weird. Is it like actually live-streaming? The only thing I can think of is maybe he feels bad he couldn’t invite everyone he’s ever met and wants them to experience the day even though they weren’t invited? Either way, I agree with PPs…kinda douchey and narcissistic.
Post # 13
Wow, live-streaming a wedding? I think that’s a little douchey, unless you have a large number of friends and family who are very far away (like overseas).
Because sitting in front of my laptop for 3 hours on a Saturday afternoon watching a party I’m not invited to sounds like SO MUCH FUN!!
Post # 14
Ah I know someone who did a small intimate ceremony but streamed the wedding. It was welcomed because they were on a small budget and quick time frame. But when you spend some time planning it, I’d find it odd.
Post # 15
Yeah, that’s pretty rude. “Hey, you weren’t invited, but let me tell you how awesome it was!” If it makes you feel any better, I was invited to a facebook event where a friend is asking people to help her pay for her wedding. They have a donations website. There are 2000 people invited to the event, and I’m assuming they aren’t all invited to the wedding. So, I’ve seen worse.
Post # 16
He’s probably just excited that he’s getting married and sees it as a way to include friends who weren’t invited. I kept mine to one thank-you post after the wedding, one wedding album, and one honeymoon album. I love seeing people’s wedding pictures, but definitely wouldn’t join a group for it. I’d probably block his updates until he settles in a little more.