Facebook announcement after struggle to conceive?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Too early and risky IMHO. Could u wait til further down the line?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@missrain: I don’t see any reason why you need a disclaimer for a facebook post announcing your pregnancy.  That said, I wouldn’t do any facebook announcement until I was safely into second trimester.  

As much as it hurts to see that other people are pregnant when you are trying, it isn’t like they post it on purpose to make you sad.  I think other people get that. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a friend who had trouble conceiving and was a high risk for miscarraige. She was told to wait and not tell anyone just in case something happened. She felt that if something did happen, she did not want to sit there and greive in silence. She felt it was better to celebrate the pregnancy, and God forbid if something happened, she would announce that too when she felt ready so her family and friends could greive with her. FTR she has a healthy son. But, she was prepared to be open about the experience had it not gone well. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@missrain:  I think most people know it is hard to conceive so you dont have to make a huge announcement.  Your family can know, but as far as facebook, not necessary.  I would wait to tell facebook until you are into the second trimester and tell your family just before maybe a week or two. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@missrain:  First, congrats on your pregnancy. I assume you are still in the first trimester according to a summer due date? If so, I would wait to say anything until you are in the 2nd trimester, especially if you’ve suffered a loss before. I hope I word this delicately enough, but if you avoided FB to avoid announcements and even talking about your own loss, I would do the same when it comes to this pregnancy just in case. I think telling your support system like parents, friends, and siblings would be great, but FB can stay out of it utnil you are in a safer time frame.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I like the idea of waiting till you know the sex. That said, do you think a post like yours would have made you hopeful after the miscarriage? I still think it would be just as hard as any other pregnancy announcement.

I would hold off on fb. If they don’t know you well enough to know by word of mouth, then they don’t need to know.

Disclaimer: I got rid of FB four years ago.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

You know how those announcements used to make you feel?  A baby announcement is one thing, but if someone is close enough to know, they are also close enough to hear the news from you directly, either by a call, visit or note  or in the ordinary course of events. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I have to FB friends that have really struggled with infertility.  

One had a previous loss.  She announced her pregnancy and then when the the anniversary of her miscarriage came around she recognized it with a post.  I thought that was very simple and touching.  

The other one is very vocal and has posted everything through her journey so the world knew about her IVF failures and past miscarriages when they happened.  She has since adopted a son after five years of trying.  I’m really happy for her but looking on the two examples I preferred how the first one handled it.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@missrain:  Do whatever you’re comfortable with.  Personally, we aren’t big facebook sharers and aren’t even announcing it on facebook.  I definitely wouldn’t be comfortable sharing my struggles in a public manner, not that there is anything wrong with it, it’s just not us.  I cut friends off my list every day and there are still quite a few people on there I need to delete since we aren’t close anymore and they just don’;t need to be privy to private information of mine.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Congrats!  I am on the “no facebook announcement” boat.  I am sorry; I am generally opposed to sharing that type of information on facebook.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t make an announcement like that, but if someone messages you and asks how you are feeling, and you feel comfortable enough to share, then I would. 

Wait until your 2nd trimester.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think that the draft wording you proposed in your original post is absolutely perfect. As for the timing, I think whatever you decide you’re comfortable with — including making the announcement immediately — is fine. Congratulations to you and your DH on this exciting and wonderful news!

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@missrain:  I have a friend who’s ~6 months pregnant after several years of TTC (and maybe miscarriages – I’m not sure.)  She waited until just recently to post to facebook, and the last line of her post said “It was a long road to get here, but the happy result feels all the sweeter for the journey.”  I thought that was a really nice way to acknowledge that it hasn’t been easy, without getting into all the nitty gritty details.

Congrats on your pregnancy, and best of luck!

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