Facebook, Engagements & Waiting

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1174 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@braverbeating:  Um, if you have a venue that you’re looking it, and your SO knows about that and is fine with it… then you’re planning a wedding. Does that not make you engaged? Why does the ring timing matter? Just tell people you wanted to pick it out together/he wanted to take extra time to get the perfect one/whatever 🙂

Post # 4
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsSnowMountain:  No I agree with OP, because I’m in the same boat. We’ve discussed a lot of details but until the formal proposal and ring it’s not official

Post # 5
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1174 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@alsgirl:  That’s cool if that’s what you decide as a couple! Just wanted to offer another perspective, which is that to me, planning a wedding = engaged.

Post # 7
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@braverbeating:  My SO says he hasn’t asked, it’s not official. I wish it was. *sigh* We haven’t discussed where to have the wedding yet, although I have several ideas. I have a ton of ideas, i’m thinking about making a secret pintrest board, but i can’t decide if that would be to obsessive considering his current timeline.

Still, it’s awesome and fun, and i’m surrounded by people getting married, so he can’t blame me. 

Post # 10
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@braverbeating:  

@aithinne:  

My best friend and I pinned to a secret account (before secret boards existed) prior to us getting engaged. She had designed the ring w her FI (now DH) and they discussed wedding details. My FI knew what I wanted prior to the engagement, and we def talked a lot about the wedding, but we weren’t engaged in my eyes until he put a ring on it.

Post # 11
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@braverbeating:  Me too. We talked about it for months, but I wouldn’t sit still until I had the proposal because nothing is official without it for me either. But you may want to think about the fact that proposals and rings don’t always come at the same time…and proposals are free…  I understand that with a ring it could feel anticlimactic, but you could then save and research with a purpose.

Post # 16
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@braverbeating:  Actually having more difficult waiting weekend myself. My ex proposed to his gf this past weekend. Normally it wouldn’t bother me, but since we broke up, he’s had one failed marriage and with the new fiancee – he has been with her way shorter than I have been with my SO. My SO has the ring and should be proposing soon, but I would be lying if I said that I didn’t temporarily feel pathetic bc of this. 

In addition to that, I found out on FB that my SO’s female friend who also has been with her guy shorter than I have with the SO, also got engaged this past weekend. 

I know how you feel. I hate venting about this, but sometimes you just have to vent to be able to move on. 

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