Post # 1
I think everyone on Facebook has gotten a friend request from someone and thought “why on earth is this person requesting me?” – whether is is the high school classmate who simply adds everyone in their class or the ex-boyfriend poking around for info. However, Saturday I received the WEIRDEST one to date.
I’m going to go out on a vulnerable limb here and admit that in junior high school, I was targeted and bullied by a group of ‘mean girls’ who made my life HELL. And by hell, I don’t mean they made fun of me or spread rumors. They stole my shoes and clothing while I was in the shower during gym class, threw gum in my hair and markers at my clothes, spit at me and threatened my safety. At one point, they tried to lure me into a nearby wooded area to beat me with a padlock tied into a knee high gym sock. There were times during those two years where I actually remember fearing for my life and I was terrified of going to school with them. Apparently, I wasn’t the only one – Two of these girls were expelled for writing a ‘hit list’ of girls they ‘planned to kill’ before high school. No, I’m not kidding. After that incident, things changed in the school and the administrators finally realized this was a big deal. In our first year of high school, my confidence began to come back and I felt okay again. Although some of the girls still went to the same school, they had backed off considerably.
Well, one of the girls who was the ringleader in all this is the one who sent me a Facebook Friend Request. This situation happened 15 years ago now… but still for the life of me I cannot imagine why she would think for two seconds I would accept her?! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to post here to figure out her motives or anything. I really don’t care to know or find out. But I AM shocked. It makes me wonder if she really didn’t see her actions as more than simply ‘picking on’ me.
I opened that email and felt empowered. I am happy and healthy, a well adjsuted adult woman who is about to be married, enjoying my job, my life and my family. It feels good to look back and know that even though I struggled… I guess I made it anyway.
Has anyone else had someone from their past other than an ex request you like this? And how did it make you feel?
Post # 3
Wow that’s crazy. I was sort of a loner in school and made fun of but nothing that bad! Some people are really stupid and forget about things that happened in the past. Since she wasn’t the one who was traumatized, it’s possible she doesn’t remember. Not that this is an excuse though! I haven’t gotten that random a friend request thankfully!
Post # 4
Holy crap, that is crazy. I would say that my experience with people I used to go to school with is that they don’t realise just how much of a horrible effect their behaviour had on my life. They really do think that as everyone is an adult now, I should just get over it.
Post # 5
Eek, I can’t believe they did those things to you, that’s awful!
I had a similar friend request a few months ago. It was from a girl I went to middle school with. We were okay friends until 8th grade, at which point she and I both had a crush on R, who was also one of my friends. She was convinced that he loved her, and I just wouldn’t let him go to her or something. She made death threats against me, threatened me with a knife, scratched me with her nails, bit me, etc. She also flashed poor R (wasn’t a pretty sight) and would try to corner him into kissing her. Throughout the years they saw each other once in awhile because they went to the same high school. He was nice to her in person, but she tried to text or call him sometimes, and he’d never respond at which point she got really mad.
Well, cut to this year. She friend requested both of us! He denied it because he felt uncomfortable. I accepted just because I felt kind of bad – like it had been so long since we had seen each other, she probably grew up and was ashamed of what she had done.
When we announced our engagement, she put a couple of weird lyrical or cryptic statuses up all within hours of it: “should’ve fit like a glove, should’ve fit like a diamond ring, token of true love. Should’ve all worked out but it didn’t. He should be here now, but he isn’t.” and “is wondering what to do now that the veil has lifted.”
She eventually left me a comment congratulating us, so I responded politely. I feel bad for her more than anything, but it was weird.
Post # 6
EEeeek that so horrible! And here I thought being picked on for being a chub chub was bad! But no way compared to you I was never endangered like that only teased. I’m sorry you had to go through that, but like you said look at you now! In my situation I had a lot of guys, even some I liked but paid me no attention in the junior high b/c I was fat, request to be my friend now that I’m grown up and lost the baby fat. Some I ignored but some I added b/c look at me now! No more baby fat, huh guys! And I have a great job and good looking Fi soo hah!
Post # 7
OMG lillyfaith- she bit you? eeeek
Post # 8
OMG I’ve got one for you christalynn – I grew up next door to three sisters, the oldest of whom was the biggest bully. They legit locked me in a closet and made me watch Child’s Play because I said I didn’t want to watch it cause I didn’t like scary movies (I was 9). I slept in my parents’ bed for like three months. That f**ked me up. Anyway, so obviously after we moved away I had ZERO contact with them. A few months ago I get a friend request from the oldest sister – the ringleader of the Child’s Play incident – and I’m like, yeah OK I’ll play along. I accepted. I’m glad I did because it made me feel better about myself. She’s got 3 kids, popped out one after another and counting. Her husband is out of the picture. She can’t spell for s**t. And then there was this gem from last week’s NewsFeed:
BULLY GIRL got my cort date for my dui 2morow pray 4 me and the kids
Ohhhhh I laughed. Then I called my mom and we both laughed. Then my mom called my dad and they laughed. Justice is eventually served.
Post # 9
@Kiki – yep, and it turned green! It was disgusting.
Post # 10
@lilyfaith: Wow that girl sounds insane!
@Kittyachi: Haha, I have a few people on my facebook just because I like making fun of what they say! I’m evil!
Post # 11
Wow, that is really bad. I’m sorry you went through that. I was picked on and stuff but nothing like that. I had one boy from 4th-6th would pick on me, make comments about my chest (once I got boobs in the 5th grade) and basically made my life hell. We went off to two different middle schools but on the first day of high school I ran into him in the hall. Of course he smirked, made a crack about “loook at you…” and I cut him off. I knew he was going to say something about my body–apparently I was “blessed” with a rack but was picked on for whatever reason. I looked him dead in the eye and said, not kidding, “Jerry, don’t you ever say a f**cking word to me again.” I did not say the F-word back then and so for it to fall out of my mouth with such authority at the time was a shock to me and to him. He never harassed me again, ever. 😮
So what did you do? Did you accept? I understand that people can change, but really, her and the group of girls could have actually killed you. That’s more than just being mean 🙁
Post # 12
@ christalynn – I am so sorry those girls did that stuff to you! It makes me so mad when I hear on the news about bullying going on in schools! It’s really dangerous and traumatic for kids and recently there has been a lot of incidents of suicide because the kid can’t take it any longer! So sad 🙁 I wasn’t popular either – I was more so in high school but middle school was NOT fun, but luckily it wasn’t anything like you experienced! I wouldn’t friend her if I were you. She might have grown up, but she’s probably still insane.
@ lily – Wow – that girl sounds like a piece of work! What a weirdo! I don’t know if you listen to country music or not, but that weird lyrical message she left you sounds a lot like a line out of an older Dixie Chicks song.
Post # 13
I saw one of my bullies last night! I was going into a Panera Bread as she was walking out. My heart skipped a beat, and I pretended I didn’t see her. How crazy that after all this time, I still get anxiety over something like that!
Post # 14
omg, good for you for enduring their bullying and coming out on top!
did you accept her request? are you going to ask her why she added you?
i’m curious to find out!!
Post # 15
That’s a horrible story! Totally not someone I would be adding! I’ve gotten a few random ones, but nothing like that!
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I’ve accepted most friend requests from people who made my life hell, only because I like to mock their lives..
Middle school is really the worst possible idea educators have ever come up with.