Post # 1
So in a previous post I have mentioned that I needed advice on how to get my facebook friends down. At first I wanted to get down to 215 but with my family members on facebook and a few friends who live out of the country and my local friends that is not possible. I then agreed with myself to keep it at 235 people but now im leaning towards 250 facebook friends. As far as i determine who to keep on my facebook I am doing a phone contact policy, another words if your not comfortble with me texting you then your not worth keeping on my facebook, or if I cant have your number then your not good enough to be on facebook. Due to this policy knowing how bad the economy is I have made some exceptions. Here are the following exceptions
1. Family-non negoable, they will be in my life forever
2. friends who dont live in the united states
A.due to this policy it would be easier to facebook them.
3. no cell phone or very limited minutes that only use it to call family.
A. I have one friend who fits this policy
4. dating partners of friends
A. I have gotten close to a few of my friends bf/gfs and some i started talking to and some I never talked to
5. my high school graduating class
A. the reason being is for high school reunion purposes
6. friends siblings
7. my sisters friends
8. local friends who live in my area
and thats my exception list for now
thoughts or suggestions????????????????
Post # 3
I must add that I will be keeping my high school teachers on there but im wondering if I should keep friends parents on there
Post # 4
Why do you need to be facebook friends with your sisters friends. They are her friends and not your friends. If they are also truly your friends then they would be listed as your friends and not your sisters friends.
Same deal with your friends siblings? Unless you are independently friends with them why do you need to be facebook friends with them?
Also your whole graduating class? Surely you will be kept in the loop about a reunion if you remain fb friends with one or two or only those that you do actually count as friends.
Post # 5
@outgoingcutie15: That sounds okay, but why the focus on the number of friends?
Post # 6
What does the bad economy have to do with who you are friends with on Facebook? I’m a little confused by that.
Your list of exceptions is fine, but I think you’re overthinking this. If you want to clean out your list, just get rid of people you don’t actually consider friends and move on – no need to rank them and make a list of exceptions.
Post # 7
I don’t get it. I have quite a few facebook friends. I’m not friends with all of them. I don’t add people where I would feel uncomfortable if they looked through my photos or something though. I see facebook as a useful contact list. Not every contact is going to be a friend.
Post # 8
I think being fb friends with your sister’s friends, friends’ siblings, and friends’ parents, is unneccessary, OP.
To other posters, I think her therapist asked her to reduce her fb friendcount to a certain number and she is taking that request quite seriously.
As for the economy statement, I can only assume she means she uses fb for networking(??)
OP, Linkedin is better for that. fb doesn’t have to have such a professional and bland way of communication as when you’re talking to business contacts… i would “friend” those people on linkedin and delete them from fb.
Post # 9
@LadyBear: +1 on both the economy question and overthinking the number of Facebook friends.
OP – Out of curiosity, how old are you? You should seriously consider a career in some type of analysis (whether it be financial, statistical, etc.). I think you would do well in that, and it looks like something that you could enjoy.
Post # 10
Friends siblings and sister friends don’t need to be there unless you are actually friends with them. Same with dating partners of friends. And you don’t need everyone you went to high school with. Just the ones you talk to the most.
Post # 11
Keep your family.
Otherwise, I would cut down your friends list by asking yourself this: if you were visiting their city, would you call them up to hang out? If yes, then you can keep them. If no, then delete them. Would you ever call up your sister’s friend for coffee if you were in town? What about your friend’s BF? Or your other friend’s mom? Be realistic. Don’t think, well maybe, someday, I could possibly see myself doing that. If you haven’t done it in the past 10 years, then you’re not likely to do it in the future.
You definitely don’t need to keep your entire graduating class. As long as you have a few high school friends, you should be able to get information about reunions. Or, just keep your class president.
Also, remember that if, for some reason, you need to get in contact with a person, you can always send them a FB message without being their friend. Or you can add them back should you grow closer to them. A delete is not a permanent thing.
Post # 12
@joya_aspera: Im not in the business major but can I still get a linkedin account even though im not in the business major.
Post # 13
@RunsWithBears: Your suggestion has helped me a lot. This is the best advice on this thread.
Post # 14
@outgoingcutie15: Glad I could help! Good luck!
Post # 15
now let me ask you all this. Should I be upfront with people i dont have numbers for and say hey i need your cell number in my contacts, i am downsizing my facebook friends and if i dont have it then i need to take you off. what do you all think?
Post # 16
@outgoingcutie15: Refer to the responses on your previous thread on this subject. You got some really good advice there. There is no magic number of Facebook friends that is right or healthy — keep the people who are actually your friends, who don’t cause drama, and who you enjoy sharing your life with and reading posts about their life. That’s it. I think the bigger issue you need to focus on with your therapist is being able to realize who your true friends are.