facebook friends. who and what type of people/types of relationships part 2

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Why do you need to be facebook friends with your sisters friends. They are her friends and not your friends. If they are also truly your friends then they would be listed as your friends and not your sisters friends.

 

Same deal with your friends siblings? Unless you are independently friends with them why do you need to be facebook friends with them?

Also your whole graduating class? Surely you will be kept in the loop about a reunion if you remain fb friends with one or two or only those that you do actually count as friends.

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What does the bad economy have to do with who you are friends with on Facebook? I’m a little confused by that.

 Your list of exceptions is fine, but I think you’re overthinking this. If you want to clean out your list, just get rid of people you don’t actually consider friends and move on – no need to rank them and make a list of exceptions.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t get it.  I have quite a few facebook friends.  I’m not friends with all of them.  I don’t add people where I would feel uncomfortable if they looked through my photos or something though.  I see facebook as a useful contact list.  Not every contact is going to be a friend.

Post # 8
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I think being fb friends with your sister’s friends, friends’ siblings, and friends’ parents, is unneccessary, OP.

To other posters, I think her therapist asked her to reduce her fb friendcount to a certain number and she is taking that request quite seriously.  

As for the economy statement, I can only assume she means she uses fb for networking(??)

OP, Linkedin is better for that. fb doesn’t have to have such a professional and bland way of communication as when you’re talking to business contacts… i would “friend” those people on linkedin and delete them from fb.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@LadyBear:  +1 on both the economy question and overthinking the number of Facebook friends.

OP – Out of curiosity, how old are you? You should seriously consider a career in some type of analysis (whether it be financial, statistical, etc.). I think you would do well in that, and it looks like something that you could enjoy.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Friends siblings and sister friends don’t need to be there unless you are actually friends with them. Same with dating partners of friends. And you don’t need everyone you went to high school with. Just the ones you talk to the most.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keep your family.

Otherwise, I would cut down your friends list by asking yourself this:  if you were visiting their city, would you call them up to hang out?  If yes, then you can keep them.  If no, then delete them.  Would you ever call up your sister’s friend for coffee if you were in town?  What about your friend’s BF?  Or your other friend’s mom?  Be realistic.  Don’t think, well maybe, someday, I could possibly see myself doing that.  If you haven’t done it in the past 10 years, then you’re not likely to do it in the future.

You definitely don’t need to keep your entire graduating class.  As long as you have a few high school friends, you should be able to get information about reunions.  Or, just keep your class president.

Also, remember that if, for some reason, you need to get in contact with a person, you can always send them a FB message without being their friend.  Or you can add them back should you grow closer to them.  A delete is not a permanent thing.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@outgoingcutie15:  Refer to the responses on your previous thread on this subject. You got some really good advice there. There is no magic number of Facebook friends that is right or healthy — keep the people who are actually your friends, who don’t cause drama, and who you enjoy sharing your life with and reading posts about their life. That’s it. I think the bigger issue you need to focus on with your therapist is being able to realize who your true friends are.

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