Post # 1
I don’t know if I’m being a prude, a snob, or what, but I’m pretty taken aback by this.
A friend of mine is the Maid/Matron of Honor for her friend. She’s been posting randomly about it on Facebook. Then, three-days-ago, she puts up a status message that they’re having the brides’ bachelorette party at her favorite restaurant and then meeting up at the local…strip club line dancing bar. Everyone is to wear a black tank top and tan shorty-shorts. And then seven people were tagged, including myself, as if it were an invitation. I don’t know the bride, only the Maid/Matron of Honor, and I live 420 miles away! I figured I was mistagged – that maybe another girl with my first name or something was meant to be tagged.
Then throughout the evening of the party, the Maid/Matron of Honor is posting updates and still tagging me in them!
Yesterday, my friend posted pictures of the party, in a public photo album, on Facebook, again tagging me. There are pictures at the restaurant with the bride, Maid/Matron of Honor, two BMs, a random friend, the bride’s mother, and Future Mother-In-Law, all of whom are wearing lowcut tanks and shorty-shorts. And then the pictures from the strip club line dancing bar were posted and they were…totally inapprorpriate to post on Facebook, much less a public photo album! I saw things…I shouldn’t have.
So, I don’t know where to put my etiquette mindset: an invite on a Facebook status a few days before the party, tagging me in it even though I don’t know the bride and continuing to tag me (while I live so far away), dictating exactly what everyone should wear, or posting pictures from a strip club on Facebook.
Maybe I’m a prude.
Post # 3
You are not prude, this was a clear violation of facebook over-sharing.
Post # 4
I’d be annoyed with the whole situation too. I actually recently changed my settings so no one can tag me in a status without me approving it first. I don’t need to advertise every place I go!
I think the dress code thing is annoying, but, eh, if that’s what they wanted, at least it was a standard outfit that someone would own, not something ridiculous or expensive. But I would weigh my options carefully about going if someone dictated my clothing!
Strip club pictures. Inappropriate, in every sense of the word. Putting them on facebook? Ridiculous, offensive, and really, really bizarre.
Post # 5
@Cady: Yup. It’s the very reason why I turned off the “tagging” functionality on Facebook. Only I can tag myself in something!
Post # 6
hahahaha that’s very awkward… Laugh it off, and make a joking comment on one of the posts where you’re tagged saying something like it’s a good thing you weren’t actually there, or you may not have survived such a wild night. That might help them figure out they mistagged you. How people embarass themselves online is their problem, not everyone has figured out that anyone at any point in time may end up seeing that stuff. Don’t take it too seriously, nothing to be done about it now except take yourself out of the mess 🙂
Post # 7
Completely inappropriate. If I were the bride I’d be pretty miffed and ask the Maid/Matron of Honor to at the very least make the album private, if not remove it entirely. And if I were in your shoes, I’d remove my tags from all pictures – you weren’t even there. You don’t need your 70 year old Aunt Millicent looking at a picture you were tagged in of scantly clad people doing belly shots or whathaveyou. I don’t know what your job is but I’d be concerned about coworkers or employers seeing them too.
Post # 8
Yes, I’ve just begun the process of untagging myself. I’ll be here a while.
Post # 9
Yep, definitely inappropriate. Although I don’t mind having a “dress code” for the party… I think doing LBD parties or something similar is cute.