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I'm curious, as someone who's not even close to ready to have kids, I find it mildly disturbing when my married friends post pictures of their babies being born on facebook. Recently an acquaintance posted extensive photos of her c-section that were pretty graphic; I've also had one facebook friend post pics of her vaginal birth, which was even MORE graphic. Fewer pictures from her though.
So I'm curious, as expectant mothers, is this something you'll do? If so, why? Or is it something you'd be excited to see your also-prego-friend post? Does seeing pictures of other peoples' birth giving process interest you?
I just wonder at the appropriateness of them, and can't think of any reasons why I would ever want them on the internet if it were me - but I'm also not in that stage of my life, so maybe my mind will change??? I thought I'd ask the ever knowledgable and varied-of-opinion Hive in hopes of gaining some broader understanding of why people (might) choose to do this.
:) Thanks!
(ETA: just realised this might be a hot topic, from the like first five comments, haha. So let's all be sensitive and kind, eh? Different people prefer different things! And obviously at least SOME prefer for those pics to be up online, so let's keep their feelings in mind. mmkaythanks.)
EWWWWWWWWWWWW!! I am not expecting either, but I just had to post. I would never do that and don't want to see it posted on a public site. That is personal!
i'm not expecting or even close to that phase in my life, but just to chime in I think that it isn't appropriate. Yes, childbirth is a miracle and a gift ...but lets keep our private parts private and keep graphic photos to ourselves.
( for us peeps that pass out seeing blood, gross goo and things of that nature!.. baby goo or not, ew!!)
Oh MY! Posting any of the birthing photos will not be done. The only pictures that will be posted is of the baby once she is cleaned up and clothed.
I know I would never post such videos or photos. That's just too personal for me to share with the world. I rather keep that private. Also, there is noone who needs to see my Va-jay-jay other than my hubby! But that is entirely my opinion.
EDIT: I think if you really want to share the photos or videos with people, why not email them or have them go to a private blog? I am sure many of your friends on these networking sites would appreciate that more than to introduce them to this when most applications do not hide this from everyone.
My initial reaction this was was "woah". I don't have kids and I don't know anyone who's ever done that. Wow! Personally I don't think I would ever post photos like that nor would I want to see other people's photos, but I guess there's two sides to every coin.
Good question daydreamwanderer, I'm interested in hearing some answers to this!
Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew.
That just took Facebook TMI to a whole new level!
LOL Lilyfaith! That's what I was thinking! However seeing a photo like that may be the best form of birth control I've ever heard of!
If I had my way, not even the doctor would be in the room when I give birth. My rule to my DH is "No photos below the waist." No photos of my vajayjay, no photos of the doctor catching the baby. No no no! I don't even want photos of that. I certainly wouldn't post anything like it on FB.
I think (HOPE!) people who do that maybe have privacy restrictions on their accounts so that the only people who can access their profile anyway are friends. That's pretty much the same as e-mailing them, so I don't really see the difference. My cousin sent everyone photos of her birth in the mail as her birth announcement. Some people find it beautiful and natural and...whatever.
@MightySapphire - I don't want any pictures below the waist either! I can see my Mom taking pictures but she will hear my rules about it first.
If anyone DOES want to post these kind of pics, I'd love to hear from you! I didn't mean for this to be a critical post, more just really, burningly curious about the motivation behind the action. :)
I promise we won't attack you! I'll smack anybody who does ;)
If I friend sent me a photo of her baby... umm... mid-birth shall we say, I'm not sure I could ever look her in the eye again. Yes it's natural and yes some people find it beautiful but I think it's sort of terrifying and messy! LOL! Can you tell I'm a long ways off from wanting kids?! Plus I agree, I don't want the world seeing my va-jay-jay via FB or email or anything else. Nor would I ever assume that anyone else would want to see that!
Agreed daydreamwanderer! It would be interesting to hear the other side of it. Different strokes for different folks right?
I personally would not do this. I think its an intimate process. I have over 800 facebook "friends", and while some of them are very close (hey, maybe after labor I'll show them pictures in person!), others are literally "that girl who I did a class project with during sophomore year of college" or "that dude who hit on me in a bar and I haven't seen since." Not only do I not want them seeing my labor, but I don't want to disturb them with those graphic details of my life popping up in their news feed!
Um of the new baby Yes! of the va jay jay? It's called PRIVATE parts for a reason!
I'm not expecting either but I don't want to see graphic pictures up on FB LOL. I'm OK with the cute and cuddly ones.
No thank you. I don't want people seeing that part of me and I certainly don't want to see somebody else's icky lady parts dilated 10cm with a bowling ball coming out of it.
PS isn't taht sort of stuff illegal on facebook? You can request photos be taken down if they're inappropriate. And I think birthing photos are DEFINITELY inappropriate.
I'm that tacky friend who'd probably comment "nice cooter. Thanks for sharing..." haha.
It's one thing if someone ASKS to see photos (off facebook of course) to prepare themselves for haivng a baby or something. I see myself maybe watching a graphic video down the road so i'm prepared....but i don't want it forced on me in my live feed. I find it to be in poor taste. Above the waist please! I want to see the baby but I don't want to see WHERE It came from and all the stuff that comes with it.
how twisted is it that part of me wants to repost her pictures for you all to see?
I obviously never would, because 1) privacy! and 2) you apparently don't want to see ;)
but it's like when you see roadkill - you have to point it out so the person with you can be grossed out too!
Personally...heck no! I don't even want the pic of me looking sweaty and makeup-less that lots of moms seem to post. If other people want to do it, and it's still 'appropriate' as far as Facebook regs go (not going to judge otherwise) I can just choose not to look.
I had a baby in august and did not allow any pictures of the actual labor...who wants to see/remember that?!? I didnt even post pictures of him before he was cleaned off...again who wants to see that? I mean if you have family that wants those pictures because they couldnt be there, email them or something...YUCK!!
Gross! No one wants to see all that!
I do know of a girl who posted a pic on Facebook of her breastfeeding her newborn, both breasts out. I realize this is a special moment between mother and child, but that's what it needs to remain- between mother and child!
I would not post my birth photos publicly, but I would share them privately. BUt in terms of seeing other people's photos, I am glad to see them. We as women see far too many "fake" births on TV etc that are nothing like how it is in reality. I am glad to be able to see a more accurate representation of labor and birth so that I can prepare myself for my own birth.
I second EJS.. I think that is illegal on fb. I'm surprised they haven't been deleted yet. Giving birth gives you a whole new level of inhibition.. like none at all.. lol. None the less I would not post pics on the internet. Or show them to friends. Or take them in the first place. Heck, I was embarassed by the pics of my face after birth (after 27 hours of labor I was not looking too pretty and boy oh boy was I swollen!)
I understand the feeling that it is natural and that we shouldn't be embarassed or uncomfortable about such an amazing and beautiful thing. Not to mention in other cultures it's super normal. Some people argue that if people were more exposed to real (non tv) natural births that it would allow them to gain a better perspective of what labor was and decrease the fear based complications of labor. And I agree. But personally I still wouldn't share pics of my hoo-ha.. especially not on the internet. To each their own though.
I'm not preggo or a mommy but I think it's GROSS. I'm grossed out by the thought of dealing with giving birth to my own, so I really don't want to see someone elses.
thank god im not the only one grossed out by this... the big naked-stretch-marked-belly pics are kinda too personal for me too... I understand the purpose "progression diary" kinda thing.. but gee, last time i checked, i don't want anyone reading my diary or looking at pictures of my stretch marks.
This reminded me of this pic on Lamebook (a website that makes fun of stuff posted on facebook) read the comment this person's friend made and their response!
http://www.lamebook.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/photo15-11.png
@pugs - LOL!!! OMG!!!!!! That's hilarious and wrong!!!! She couldn't have cropped the photo?! LOL! GROSS!!!!
haha. Luckily I've been spared from the super graphic pictures. But I have to agree. I do not get why people post pictures of them while in labor. I just don't get it? You look like crap! Sorry!
I will kill anyone (friends, family, husband) that posts pics of me while in labor on FB. Sending it to immediate family and close friends is OK. FB. Hell no.
I do not see what the big deal is. They're proud of all the sweat and tears that went into having a baby and want to share it with their friends and family. So what if the pictures are a little graphic, don't look at them if it bothers you or make it so that when they post pictures you won't be updated lol I don't think I'd ever post pictures like that online but I'd def want some of those pictures taken (maybe not the exact moment the baby was being born though!) for a photo album for my home not facebook. That's just my opinion though.
I can't even believe someone would post pics of the actual birth on FB. If people ask to see it, fine, but otherwise you get people who think they are seeing pics of the new baby getting a lot more than they asked for! As much as I like to take photos of my life, the actual birth part will be one thing that goes undocumented!!!!
@MrsErin - I agree I think taking those pics (if the mom is comfortable) can be great but unless the mom has VERY limited facebook friends, most people aren't BFF with all their friends. Unless I would call you when my baby's born, you shouldn't be seeing the pictures. I'd probably only call like 20 people, but I have over 1000 fbook friends! Like, I don't want to see a former classmate's hooha if I never talk to her that much anymore!!! Save that for your close friends/family/an email/an album.
I'm cool with a gooey baby laying on the scale right afterward, but photos of the mom's bits in any way is totally inappropriate.
A high school friend of mine had pictures of her C-section taken from her head, but the taker was just a little bit higher and you could see the baby and the incision. No thanks. Although, like a good car crash, I showed FI and my brothers. Strictly for the reaction.
facebook is forever...besides, people could save off those pictures...too weird for me
I saw one that wasn't even graphic, but it was a water birth in a tub at their house, and I was kinda weirded out as TMI.
Pictures of vaginal birth?!
It's a beautiful process and yadda yadda, but... NO. I want to see your baby when s/he's pink and clean and swaddled. Not covered in viscera and halfway out your you-know-what!
I am not a fan. I see it just another sad byproduct of an attention-seeking 15 minutes of fame culture. So many people share engagements, weddings, and pregnancies on FB with photos -- so I guess this is the next step!
eww no way! the closet thing i've seen is when tehy have the baby on the scale still covered with blood anmd thats even to much i tihnk to post on facebook. when there nice and clean then yes!
That photo is hilarious!
Who smiles when a doctor has their hand up their you know what? The LAST thing i'm doing at my gynos' office is smiling!
Private memory book, photos to share with family who ASK to see, photos in a folder on your own computer, yes....facebook is not going to be my realm to take photos.
I don't even want dh standing NEAR the lady goods. I don't want him to be scarred for the future every time he sees them 
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