Post # 1
I’m curious, as someone who’s not even close to ready to have kids, I find it mildly disturbing when my married friends post pictures of their babies being born on facebook. Recently an acquaintance posted extensive photos of her c-section that were pretty graphic; I’ve also had one facebook friend post pics of her vaginal birth, which was even MORE graphic. Fewer pictures from her though.
So I’m curious, as expectant mothers, is this something you’ll do? If so, why? Or is it something you’d be excited to see your also-prego-friend post? Does seeing pictures of other peoples’ birth giving process interest you?
I just wonder at the appropriateness of them, and can’t think of any reasons why I would ever want them on the internet if it were me – but I’m also not in that stage of my life, so maybe my mind will change??? I thought I’d ask the ever knowledgable and varied-of-opinion Hive in hopes of gaining some broader understanding of why people (might) choose to do this.
(ETA: just realised this might be a hot topic, from the like first five comments, haha. So let’s all be sensitive and kind, eh? Different people prefer different things! And obviously at least SOME prefer for those pics to be up online, so let’s keep their feelings in mind. mmkaythanks.)
Post # 3
EWWWWWWWWWWWW!! I am not expecting either, but I just had to post. I would never do that and don’t want to see it posted on a public site. That is personal!
Post # 4
i’m not expecting or even close to that phase in my life, but just to chime in I think that it isn’t appropriate. Yes, childbirth is a miracle and a gift …but lets keep our private parts private and keep graphic photos to ourselves.
( for us peeps that pass out seeing blood, gross goo and things of that nature!.. baby goo or not, ew!!)
Post # 5
Oh MY! Posting any of the birthing photos will not be done. The only pictures that will be posted is of the baby once she is cleaned up and clothed.
I know I would never post such videos or photos. That’s just too personal for me to share with the world. I rather keep that private. Also, there is noone who needs to see my Va-jay-jay other than my hubby! But that is entirely my opinion.
EDIT: I think if you really want to share the photos or videos with people, why not email them or have them go to a private blog? I am sure many of your friends on these networking sites would appreciate that more than to introduce them to this when most applications do not hide this from everyone.
Post # 6
My initial reaction this was was “woah”. I don’t have kids and I don’t know anyone who’s ever done that. Wow! Personally I don’t think I would ever post photos like that nor would I want to see other people’s photos, but I guess there’s two sides to every coin.
Good question daydreamwanderer, I’m interested in hearing some answers to this!
Post # 7
Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew.
That just took Facebook Too Much Information to a whole new level!
Post # 8
LOL Lilyfaith! That’s what I was thinking! However seeing a photo like that may be the best form of birth control I’ve ever heard of!
Post # 9
If I had my way, not even the doctor would be in the room when I give birth. My rule to my Darling Husband is “No photos below the waist.” No photos of my vajayjay, no photos of the doctor catching the baby. No no no! I don’t even want photos of that. I certainly wouldn’t post anything like it on FB.
I think (HOPE!) people who do that maybe have privacy restrictions on their accounts so that the only people who can access their profile anyway are friends. That’s pretty much the same as e-mailing them, so I don’t really see the difference. My cousin sent everyone photos of her birth in the mail as her birth announcement. Some people find it beautiful and natural and…whatever.
Post # 10
@MightySapphire – I don’t want any pictures below the waist either! I can see my Mom taking pictures but she will hear my rules about it first.
Post # 11
If anyone DOES want to post these kind of pics, I’d love to hear from you! I didn’t mean for this to be a critical post, more just really, burningly curious about the motivation behind the action. 🙂
I promise we won’t attack you! I’ll smack anybody who does 😉
Post # 12
If I friend sent me a photo of her baby… umm… mid-birth shall we say, I’m not sure I could ever look her in the eye again. Yes it’s natural and yes some people find it beautiful but I think it’s sort of terrifying and messy! LOL! Can you tell I’m a long ways off from wanting kids?! Plus I agree, I don’t want the world seeing my va-jay-jay via FB or email or anything else. Nor would I ever assume that anyone else would want to see that!
Post # 13
Agreed daydreamwanderer! It would be interesting to hear the other side of it. Different strokes for different folks right?
Post # 14
I personally would not do this. I think its an intimate process. I have over 800 facebook “friends”, and while some of them are very close (hey, maybe after labor I’ll show them pictures in person!), others are literally “that girl who I did a class project with during sophomore year of college” or “that dude who hit on me in a bar and I haven’t seen since.” Not only do I not want them seeing my labor, but I don’t want to disturb them with those graphic details of my life popping up in their news feed!
Post # 15
Um of the new baby Yes! of the va jay jay? It’s called PRIVATE parts for a reason!
Post # 16
I’m not expecting either but I don’t want to see graphic pictures up on FB LOL. I’m OK with the cute and cuddly ones.