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Hey - quick question and poll for the hive:

First heres the situation:

i have a friend that recently got engaged. (side note, there are some folks who think she shouldnt get married right now especially to the specific guy due to issues that they have emotionally) while most folks are happy for her, she keeps posting statuses about her upcoming wedding on facebook. Often it seems like shes soliciting attention. some are like "just booked our venue" or "who wants to go dress shopping with me??" part of me wouldnt care and would just overlook the posts, but seriously every single day theres new posts about the wedding. and then there was the "im getting married" status, which was weeks after she was proposed to.. um we already know.

Shes also posted her wedding website and all the details on FB. im wondering if i should let her know that since she is having a small event, she should probably refrain from posting things on FB about the wedding because A)its rude to talk about an event in front of people you arent inviting (and since shes not inviting her 900 FB friends...) and B)no one cares about your weddign like you do - people are annoyed with the statuses and kind of see them as a grab for attention.

I am really thinking of posting something in my blog about it since i know she reads my blog - nothing mean or directed at her just a general ettiqute post and how it helped to stick to the rules during my wedding planning to get her to realize shes hurting feelings and making people gag as well.

soooo... what would you do?

feel free to ask questions because i know that was a long explaination and im at a loss on how to approach this....

Personally, I don't really understand why so many people get so upset over other people's status updates on facebook.  Do I do it personally? No.  But I don't really care about the people that do, I just don't read them.  She's obviously excited enough to be posting on facebook about it constantly, why would you want to ruin her excitement?  I don't think you should post anything about it on your blog, personally I think that's really rude.  If you're close enough with this girl that you think you should give input on what she puts on the internet, at least have a 1 on 1 conversation with her, don't post it on the internet.

@lilyfaith: i know thats why im on the fence about the blog post - but like @beekiss2: said, im afraid if i actually talk to her directly she will get pissed off.

@MandaMack: its less about posting stuff on facebook - but more about the tone and the reasoning behind posting it. from the tone of the statuses it just seems that half the time shes trying to get attention not those "eeeee im getting married!" statuses that most newly engaged folks have.

i mean we have all posted stuff on our FB about wedding happenings, but i knew that it was kinda annoying to a)people that are single and depressed about it b)people that arent invited c)people who are going thru divorces (all of which she has several friends who she talks to daily who are goin thru these things) - hence why i kept my postings to a bare minimum.

and also the individual i am talking about its somewhat of an attention wh*re, so its not a surprise shes doin this, nor is subtlety one of her strong points.

@spaganya: On Sunday I made my FB status "11 months to go!  I hope they go as fast as the last one did!"  Does that mean I'm looking for attention???  She's excited.  We all sit on weddingbee talking about nothing but weddings because we're excited.  Why is that a crime?  Just because she has friends who are going through divorces doesn't mean she can't be happy that she's getting married.  And how can you tell the "tone" in a facebook status?

again - its the tone of the statuses. you dont get the "im happy so i have to share with the world" feeling on her posts - its more like "look at me this happened, now comment so i feel better about myself" posts.

and im not the only one annoyed - several folks have come to me expressing annoyance or wondering what to say to her about it. hence the poll.

thanks for the suggestions folks - keep em coming if theres something different yall think i should do.

i dont want something as stupid as facebook cause folks to not talk to each other.

theres also other tensions like this girl picked a date a couple weeks before another friend who had been engaged longer, thats causing friction as well. *sigh*

im trying to be a peacekeeper and have stuff not go into an all out bridal wars situation.

Ugh, the dreaded 10 status updates a day facebooker.  SO obnoxious.  Social networking has definitely stirred the inner narciscist in a lot of people.  I totally get your frustration but there's really not much you can do about it without making it worse.  Hide her updates.  If she asks you why you never comment on them (these attention whores always notice when certain people never comment) feel free to tell her why.

thanks for the imput girls! im gonna try and hide her statuses for now and let others deal with their issues with her on their own terms.

@MandaMack: i think it might be a "you have to know her" to get the tone of it. i cant post direct quotes of waht shes been posting lest she stumble on this and freak out, so im trying to keep it kinda vague. theres a lot of history with this girl, and often she offends people and has no clue. (or sometimes she does and doesnt seem to care)

my point was i wanted to find a way to let her know that shes alienating people with her facebook (yes i know it sounds super stupid when i say it aloud...). its not a personal vendetta or anything, its just about tact with some of the things shes saying.

You're right, it's pretty poor etiquette to be posting things that are directly about the event itself--like your wedding website and details about the time and place--when not everyone is seeing it is invited. But this is her issue, her poor etiquette and I doubt she's really harming one...she's just being annoying. I'd just ignore her if it gets under your skin.