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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    So, our venue requires us to provide the name of every guest attending our wedding on a list of people that we've prepaid to enter the show garden where we're hosting it.

    I sent my cousin that I'm not that close with an invite plus her boyfriend and she RSVP'd yes for both of them.

    However, in my facebook stalking it appears that they've broken up.  (She changed her relationship status to "single" and her status says "I hate boyfriendsname") 

    I assume I'm low on her list of people to notify that she and said boyfriend are no longer together, and my wedding is the last thing on her mind (I know, I can't believe it either), but do you think it's cool just to remove him from the list and the initial count that's due Tuesday, or assume that she might bring some unnamed random on the day/they might get back together and wait for her to send word.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Hmm I would talk to her about it.  She might bring a friend or something so she isn't alone.

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    Yeah, I kind of don't want to ask her about it.  By, "not that close" I really mean I see her at Christmas once every few years.  I would feel super awkward calling her, since I clearly am not calling to express sympathy/be there for her, it's totally self serving.  But, if she does decide to bring a friend, I need their name for my list, or they're going to get charged 20 bucks at the gate!

     
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    anewlin    June 18, 2011   Wisconsin

    In that situation I would just say ask if you need to know!  Explain the situation...I am sure she would understand and be glad you said something rather than having to pay $20...

     
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    VeronicaH    April 24, 2010  

    Since she put it on FB for all to see, go ahead and FB message her to say you're sorry to here about her break up (generic, but hey) and let her know that you are taking him off the list which is due Tuesday. If you ask her for someone else's name, she will probably just rush to give you a name and it might not be someone she'll bring. You could toss in a comment like, maybe she'll meet someone at the wedding it's going to be a big party (or something).

     

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