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WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you can't afford invitations maybe you can't afford the wedding. JUSTICE OF THE PEACE!
awful, just by some cheep cards if money is the problem. Unless your having like a barbaque and you dont really care who come.
IS there going to be a formal invitation to follow? I'm not crazy about facebook invites unless its for a casual event. FOr weddings I think at the very least if they really cant afford paper invites, they can send an E-vite that comes direct to your inbox
Totally lame and cheap. My dad's boss did this. Well my dad doesn't have facebook so he thought he wa not invited. He had to tell him in person and gave him the date, place and time. Who does that? Have the decency to send an invitation to all your guests.
Not a fan of this idea. I do have a FB group for my wedding party where they can all chat, and I can post details. I do send invites to them for upcoming things like fittings, etc through that group...but not our wedding invites.
Hell to the no. We couldn't afford a big wedding so we went to the courthouse, but we STILL managed to send nice paper invitations to each guest.
@bells: This is exactly what I'm wondering. I've told my mom to keep an eye out in case she sends it to my parents' house (we're friends from high school). But the wedding is less than a month away! How much more time is there to send a paper invite?
Seriously? I am all for mailed paper invitations. If someone chooses to go the electronic route that's up to them, but it's not my preference. Wouldn't it make more sense to do an e-vite or paperlesspost.com? Contrary to popular belief, not everyone in the world is on FB yet.
I just had this happen to me last week - I was like WHAT? We had already received a save the date from this couple so I was really confused.
I think using FB as a save-the-date type of a thing would be fine. Or to get a general idea of how many guests might be okay...if you explained that ON it!
So I ran into the fiance of the girl and asked him, "uhhh, are you sending out invitations still?" and he said yes. But he never explained why they did the Facebook thing, and I didn't want to push it because I felt rude. So who knows? At least they're sending out a "real" invite though!
I don't like it. Just seems like laziness to me. Evites are fine for BBQs or girls nights but not a wedding.
It's not like wedding invitations have to be super expensive - you can get a box from nearly anywhere - then all you have to do is mail them.
It's like sending an e-card because you forgot someone's bday. It's not about the actual card or the invitation it's about the fore-thought and effort that goes into sending someone actual mail.
Email save the dates is one thing, but facebook wedding invite? no.
I'm not going to invest a ton of money in invitations, but I will be mailing everyone 1 piece of paper.
I, personally, would never do it. I'm never surprised by anything anymore. To each their own.
Some people use facebook as the STD and then mail our actual invites but only to the people who they think are definitely coming.
I don't get why people are so against them? I never open e-invites because there's so many scams parading as "you have a card waiting for you". Also, you can FB invite someone who doesn't have a FB, just need their email address :). I would actually prefer a FB invite, no paper to lose & I usually throw invites away after the wedding.
I sent out FB invites around 3 months before the wedding because I wasn't sure where I would live so didn't want invites to get returned to a place I moved out of. DH also was moving. I didn't know my address until 25 days before the wedding & I didn't want to explain to everyone the reasons why. If anyone thought we were "tacky", we didn't care. We did send out mailed invites because we had everything printed & designed, but it wasn't until like 3 weeks before the wedding.
Oh I don't like it at all. If you can't afford that stuff, at least follow it up with a personal phone call or SOMETHING.
I had friends that did some invites as a paper invitation, some Facebook and some eVite. I'm partial to good old fashioned paper invitations.
I'm gonna be the oddball and say a Facebook event for the wedding is fine, IF you have friends/family who need all the reminders they can get. AND who practically LIVE off facebook. (I have several of these in my and my FI's friends list...)
HOWEVER, an actual invitation is ALSO REQUIRED. Even those who will be tagged in the FB invite will be recieving an actual invite, even if we have to drive it to them. Or hound them until they give us their address (not like THAT will be a problem, lol).
Come on people, everything is done via the interwebs why should inviting be any different? I am all for it, but myself having physical invites, becasue see the drama you cause when you don't?
I did do FB STDs and I'm still hounding people for addresses via FB, how much easier is it that I don't need to know their address?
I've gotten one invite through Paperless Post, but the couple is extremely conscious about conservation of resources. If made sense for them and they clearly looking into a pretty, but comfortable way for them to send their invitations.
I get invitations to girls' night out via Facebook. It just doesn't seem like an appropriate vehicle for a wdding invitation.
I've gotten a mass facebook invite to a wedding before. However, I understood the circumstances. Long story short, this couple were college ministers and wanted to invite the people on their campuses (two different colleges) to the wedding. However, there were more than like 400 students altogether. The invite explained that we were allowed to come, and if you want to brng a date, you had to find someone who was already invited to take. Granted, we didn't need dates to the wedding, because we would've known at leat 400 people there.
Another time I got an e-vite to a wedding. It was a simliar situation... however I wasn't in college anymore. I was kind of annoyed that they would lump me in with all the other college folks. Sad thing is, because it was an e-mail, I immediately was like, sure I'll come. But when time got closer, I had forgotten all about it and didn't go. I think technology is great, but I refuse to use it because when people get e-vites or facebook invitations, they just say "Yes" without really considering it... and then you end up with LESS guests than you thought.
@serabell: I don't understand why people are so bent out of shape about it.
I personally wouldn't do it but hey, people are under increasing budget constraints and not everyone can afford invites. That said, I probably wouldn't have a big wedding if that were the case. I don't understand the need to be so judge-y about the entire thing! It's not always about laziness. I'd much rather get a an e-vite/FB invite than the couple go into debt or worse, not invite me b/c they're too afraid of being embarrassed by that form of invitation.
To each their own.
@Atalanta: Exactly! About 1/3 of the guests didn't get back to us with their addresses, we called, texted, FB messaged them... some people never responded but they showed up to the wedding. We have so many extra invitations that were never sent because we never got their addresses.
My other half plans on inviting some of his old school buddies to the evening reception via facebook on a "come if you fancy it" basis as it will be quite informal without any catering. I am however having proper invitations (which I intend on making by hand if I ever get round to it) for the formal reception and wedding breakfast (our actual wedding ceremony is abroad and no one is invited!).
I guess facebook has its place, but I wouldn't invite my mum using it!!
@beekiss: I completely agree with you. Although I wouldn't send out a facebook invite, if someone else did, I wouldn't be offended. They probably have reasons for why they decided to do so. Although the sentiment of receiving a personalized invitation is nice. So they probably still should have at least personalized their e-vite to every guest. But as long as they're happy, at the end of the day, that's all that matters--not a piece of paper.
I hate facebook invitations! I received one for my FI's cousin's wedding. He doesn't have facebook. But I did receive an invite in the mail from her MOH for her bachelorette party, WTF???
After hearing some responses, I think my biggest problem was how confusing it was. I really had no idea if FI was invited or not, because he hadn't gotten an invite! It just seems like a really casual, imprecise way to send out invitations. I mean, will all of the people they invited assume they can bring a +1? Are the bride and groom prepared for that to happen? Because without sending invites that specifically say "Person and guest," or without individually inviting all the boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives of their guests, it seems like a lot of people will not know who exactly is invited or who they can bring as guests (or how many!).
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I just got invited to a friend's wedding yesterday. Via facebook invitation.
Now, I understand that stamps, stationary, envelopes, calligraphy, etc, are ALL expensive. But seriously? Facebook invitation?
The really odd part was that, since my friend is not fb friends with my FI, I was totally not sure if he was invited or not because obviously he didn't receive an invitation. So I had to ask the bride to make sure he was invited too, as will all the other people in serious relationships!
What do you think about this?