Post # 1
I am considering doing a mock/fake send off alot of my family wont stay for the whole reception, some have small children some are elderly, and I want them to be there for that.
Has anyone had any experiance with this? I have seen it done once several years ago at a friends wedding. I am wondering what would be the best point in the reception to do it? Before dinner, after dinner, before danceing ect… I cant seem to wrap my head around it fully.
Any insight the hive has would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
I’ve never been to a reception with a fake send off. It seems a bit silly to me, sorry. I’ve never stayed long enough to see the couple off and I’ve survived. The concept of the send off seems a bit hokey to me, anyway.
How would the fake send off work? Would you come back to the reception after fake-leaving? How long after? I can’t wrap my head around how this concept works.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t frame it as a send-off necessarily, but maybe carry your rice throwing over to your reception and have people throw flower petals as you go IN your reception instead of leaving. Or invite people to line up outside at a certain time halfway through the festivities and hold sparklers or something as you walk down the line.
We’re not having a send-off because our reception is in our hotel and will run late, so we’re just sticking with people lining up to throw lavendar buds at us in between the ceremony and reception.
Post # 5
Maybe people could blow bubbles/wave streamers/wave sparklers/throw birdseed/etc as you exit the ceremony? That way you don’t have to fake leave then real leave the reception (honestly, I’m with PP- the concept makes me dizzy…)
Post # 6
Ya, to be frank, the send off isn’t that exciting to me – it just looks great in photos. I think it is sort of off-putting to the rest of your guests that are staying. Does that make sense? Like ‘you’re not good enough to have the actual send off’. But maybe I am just being silly.
Post # 7
@Murphymcnasty: Why don’t you have your mock send off after your ceremony? Is the reception in a different location where you would get into a limo? This could be kind of cute…but I haven’t really heard of it.
Post # 8
My photographer suggested that we do this but our DJ told us that everytime someone does this it stops the party and your reception kind of dies down so we decided against it. Honestly, I was having so much fun dancing that this would have killed my partying mood also BUT my aunt brought a bunch of heart confetti and handed it out on the dance floor and we were dancing to LMFAO Party Rock Anthem and there was confetting flying everywhere and it was awesome and it made for awesome pics 🙂
Post # 9
Another vote for skipping the “fake send-off”…
Have been to tons weddings my whole life (was an honourary flower girl, as a babe in arms at 2… and now I’m over 50) and people do leave at all different times during the day / evening.
Only occasionally I have been to a wedding right up to the very last minute…
Sometimes the Bride & Groom leave before the party ends… (a traditional send-off) but sometimes they are the last to leave… bidding their guests farewell… that usually happens if the B&G are staying on-site that night (such as a Destination Wedding)
From experience, I would say try to avoid FAKE anything on your day… realize though that for photography reasons sometimes one has to stage things like the cake cutting etc. Personally, at my first wedding, we had to “fake” the first dance, afterwards whenever I looked back thru my Wedding Album, I always hated that pic, because I knew it wasn’t real.
Just my 2 cents.
Post # 10
Thanks for the insight. I really only want to do it for pictures. My ceremony and reception are all in the same place. The ceremony is in the back gargens and the receiption is inside the lodge itself.
What do you thin about asking the officiant to invite people to the front of the lodge, (like 50 feet) and us do it after the ceremony but before the reception??
The lodge has a beautiful entrance and I have seen some amazing send off pictures from there.
Post # 11
@Murphymcnasty: I’m doing a somewhat mock send-off for photo purposes (I really just want sparklers) as well. We’re going to do it at the end of the night when the reception itself ends (so technically it’s a send off, I guess) and then we’re going to have the carriage take us down to the hotel for the after-party!
Post # 11
Murphymcnasty: iwanted sparkler pictures but didn’t want a ‘send off’ as we plan to be last standing! We came up with the idea of a ‘grand entrance’. We’re nipping off to do sunset photos after dinner then doing the ‘grand entrance’ to the reception proper. I figure it’ll do pretty much the same job in photos….
Post # 12
I don’t think a fake send off is a good idea. If you were to do it it would be after the cake cutting because that’s usually the last wedding tradition that signals to older folks the rest of the night will just be dancing, but Idk how you would even word that for the DJ to the announce it just sounds so awkward just to get pictures out of it.
We had bubbles after the ceremony because we weren’t having a send off after the reception since it wouldn’t end until midnight and we had no idea how many guests would be left at that point. Darling Husband and I got married in a church so we exited the alter and entered the church foyer where we had a receiving line, after guests were greeted they exited the church and waited outside with bubbles and once we got through the whole line, then we exited the church and they were all lined up for a beautiful picture opportunity.
Post # 13
If you would plan a fake send-off, after the cake cutting, I’d just keep on moving, to my car.
Post # 14
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Steph77: I love the idea of a grand entrance! what a cute idea!
Post # 15
why not just do an elaborate after ceremony to the reception send off ??