Post # 1
Ok, so I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. I mean REALLY always wanted one. Problem is that my fiance’s sister is getting married Oct 2012 (pretty much the date and venue I would have picked). So, we still want a fall wedding, but we obviously want a date as far away from hers as possible. Ideas?
Post # 3
Well, to start with maybe sort of an obvious question, how soon do you want to get married? I know it’s awhile from now, though how would you feel about pushing it to 2013?
We got engaged in May 2010 and also really wanted a fall wedding, though didn’t want to pack in the planning in only a few months. We’re getting married this October, and honestly I appreciated the extra planning time…it was easier to spread things out and not feel so pressured to get everything done right away. Though, I know other’s have different feelings about that.
Another question to consider….what about it being a fall wedding is so meaningful to you and important? Would another time of the year work, or is that really the time that you want it to be?
And one more thing to think about (though may not be the most practical option) is asking your fiance’s sister how she would feel about having your wedding close to hers. Then, there’s also the consideration of the family and if they could come to the same location twice within a short period of time.
It’s a lot of not the best options unfortunately. Though I hope you’re able to find something that you feel works for you!
Post # 5
From what you have said in your previous posts and this one, it sounds like no matter what you are determined to have a wedding in the fall but don’t want to start drama with the in-laws. Unless there’s a real reason your FMIL wants a couple of months between the weddings, you should go ahead and plan a wedding for next fall.
However, you did say before that it would make you unhappy to plan a wedding for any time other than fall, but if you try to plan a wedding so close to your FSIL, it sounds like you might get some flack for it from your fiance’s family. Another question is, would your fiance feel right about planning a wedding so near his sister’s? Are they close enough that it would put a strain on their relationship? If you are determined to have a 2012 fall wedding, I think you are going to have to prepare for some negative responses from family. Let us know what you decide to do!
Post # 6
I talked to my fiance and he’s happy with a fall wedding, especially because it means so much to me. He’s really close to his sister and family and he says there won’t be any issues. His only worry is if there will be any venues that still have openings. If there are no openings, I’m fine with that and will just plan a winter/spring wedding. Does anyone have any suggestions about dates though?
Post # 7
When in Oct is your future SIL’s wedding?
Early Sept. might be hard if you’re inviting out of town guests with kids, since I imagine they would be reluctant to have them travel right after school starts.
What type of venue are you considering – indoor or outdoor? Maybe check with your top venues and see what openings they have.
Post # 8
Just from my experience, it does create hard feelings when weddings are booked so close to each other, especially since your fiances family may have to travel. I suggest either Fall 2013, or nothing more pretty than an April wedding, same cooler wedding, but with Spring in the air. Good luck and happy planning!