Post # 1
I’m new to this website. Sadly, my first post on here is me ranting.
Just like the title says ‘falling apart’. I don’t think my boyfriend (I don’t refer to him as fiance) will be coming to his own wedding. Why do I think this? Well, he studies in South Africa and I’m from the UK. He hasn’t booked his tickets and its 60 days left till our wedding. And on top of that he hasn’t got his suit yet.
I have tried talking to him but we just end up arguing. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Post # 3
@SoLonely: I’m sorry. *hugs* Is he generally last minute with other things, or is it happening only with wedding related plans?
Post # 4
@SoLonely: Why is he having such a hard time getting stuff done and making it happen? I’m kind of confused.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate
@SoLonely: sorry you’re going through this 🙁 Is it because things are tight with him financially Right now? what does he say when you bring it up? I know you said it leads to arguing but what points does he try to make while arguing? **hugsssss!!**
Post # 6
Is it just the ticket and the suit? If it is, I would just chalk it up to procrastination, and not cold feet. Maybe he’s looking for the best flight deal.
Or are the plane tickets and the suit just the last straw?
Post # 7
@canadajane: no it’s not just the tickets and suit. He still hasn’t got my wedding ring.
@Astra: He usually isn’t last minute with things. It’s just he doesn’t do anything for me.
@thehappiestbridetobe: I’ve come to the conclusion that he doesn’t love me.
@SweetBeets: he has his father helping him out but I think his family hate me.
Post # 8
@SoLonely: Sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It seems that there quite a few issues here and I have a few questions that may help myself and other bees better understand your situation and offer some advice:
- Why do you say he does not do anything for you? In what sense?
- How long have you guys been planning the wedding? Has he been participating in all other preparations?
- How are all the other wedding preparations going and who has been paying for them?
- What makes you think that he just does not love you?
- How long have you guys been dating and when/how did he propose?
- Why do you think his family hates you? Are they coming to the wedding and if so, have they booked their tickets?
Post # 9
@SoLonely: I may be out of line in asking, but are you sure you want to marry this man? It seems like this is small drop in a BIG bucket of issues that could happen over the course of the rest of your lives together.
*My intentions aren’t to offend you but I think you should really think about it.
Post # 10
@DesertLady: He has never ever in this entire relationship done anything nice or sweet.
I started planning the wedding last year and he hasn’t put his input on anything. I ask his opinion on things hoping he’ll get more interested but he doesn’t seem to care. He doesn’t even know the wedding theme and colours and he doesn’t bother asking me.
I know he doesn’t love me as he has never shown it. He didn’t propose to me. One day he just said we’re getting married. When I bring it up that I want him to propose properly he says ‘we’re getting married aren’t we’
His family haven’t booked their tickets so as far as I’m concerned everything is going down the drain
Post # 11
I’m confused. If you feel he doesn’t love you, care about you,etc… why are you marrying him?
Post # 12
@SoLonely: Why did you want to marry someone who has never been nice or sweet to you? Do you want to marry him or were you in love with the idea of a wedding and marriage?
Post # 13
I just hoped that after we got married things would change.
Post # 14
It sounds link he doesn’t want to marry you and I’m really curious why you want to marry him.
Post # 15
I’m sorry you’re going through this but better to break it off now than have a miserable marriage and divorce.
Post # 16
+1 on the “Why are you marrying this guy again?” question. He’s not nice or sweet. He doesn’t do things for you. You don’t think he loves you. He didn’t even propose. And his family apparently hates you.
What do you see in this guy?