Families first meeting, MIL help!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would be completely inappropriate for his Mom to bring her married boyfriend to any social occasion, much less the first meeting of the families and the engagement party.

I would tell her “We would really like to keep it to family only.”

Post # 4
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Your MIL wants to invite her married BF to your engagment party/dinner and doesn’t understand why that’s INSANELY inappropriate?

I’d stand strong on that one… Unless you’re planning on inviting him to the wedding (I’d personally rather choke on a spoon, but…). If you’re inviting him to the wedding, he should probably attend the dinner, too.

Post # 5
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1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@FutureMrsMarlow:  I think you are well within your rights.  It’s not like you are judging her or condemning them. You’re asking it to be family only.  You can argue his dad’s partner is common law.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@FutureMrsMarlow:  Another thought….  Why would he WANT to be in such an intimate, getting to know each other situation?  I mean, honestly, if I were him I’d be embarassed to talk about why I’m here.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@FutureMrsMarlow:  Unless Dude is physically, emotionally and permanently separated from his wife and actively pursuing a divorce, there is no way he would be welcome at any of my wedding celebrations. 

He’s staying for the sake of the kid? Please. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Having the married boyfriend over for this meeting isn’t cool. I’m in somewhat of a similar situation, our parents haven’t met yet and come from drastically different backgrounds. I get nervous about it being awkward, personalities clashing. There is no way we’d invite his father’s crazy alcoholic girlfriend of 2 years. Hell no.

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