- 7 years ago
Read this carefully!
My FSIL is also the mother of my cousin B’s child. During her three year relationship with B, they lived at my aunt and uncle’s house. Also living at my aunt and uncle’s was my cousin, C (B’s brother). From early on in FSIL and B’s relationship, I noticed that FSIL and C were a bit too comfortable with each other. After B would pass out (usually drunk), FSIL would spend a lot of time in C’s bedroom with the door closed. FSIL went above and beyond to please C, and was very, very mean and snappy with B. Well, earlier this year, B finally left FSIL. He’d had enough of her games and sensed she was messing with his brother. B moved out of my aunt and uncle’s house, but FSIL is actually STILL living with them (because she doesn’t want to leave C). FSIL and C have started sleeping in the same room and have taken several vacations together this year. They are still being secretive to protect my aunt’s feelings (she is disgusted that C would sleep with his brother’s baby mama). But, everybody pretty much knows about FSIL and C. Although, I’m the only one who knows that their affair started in the beginning of FSIL and B’s relationship.
Okay, sooo… I have a wedding coming up next year. Obviously, I am going to have to invite FSIL (I don’t want to, but FMIL would have a fit). I will also need to invite my cousin C and my cousin B (who are not on speaking terms). I’m guessing B won’t come, but I have to invite him, anyway. If he does show up, things are going to be awkward.
Then, there’s the issue of FI being best friends with FSIL’s ex-husband. Before FSIL was with my cousin B, she was married briefly to her teenage love. The marriage was tumultuous and now FSIL refuses to be in the same location as her ex-hubby. Well, guess who FI wants as his best man?? Yep. I know that FSIL’s ex and my cousin C being in the same vicinity is not going to be a big hit. I fear that ex-hubby (who is still not over FSIL) may drink too much and try to start something or make a comment in front of C.
Basically, I am having to mold my wedding to suit FSIL’s relationship status and it is driving me crazy! I shouldn’t have to tell FI that he can’t have the best man he wants. I shouldn’t have to feel bad about inviting my own damn cousins to the thing, either. I don’t know what to do! It is crazy how the worst part about getting married is the wedding, and the drama your family creates for you.