- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I know I am not the first Bee to ever have this dilema nor will I be the last. But I’m having a hard time wrapping my brain around the best way to deal with two seperate family/guest list issues.
We are having a medium size wedding at my fiance’s aunt’s house. We are hoping to keep our actual guest numbers around 100. Space and money (as we are paying for it all ourselves) is certainly an issue. Plus we decided we want to be surrounded by people we love and not our parents friends we barely know, nor 7th cousins twice removed we’ve never met.
So issue 1 – On my mom’s side I have a Great Aunt that I want to invite who has been very kind and supportive to my through out my life and have been kind to my Fiance. She has two adult children who are older than me but we’ve spent time together and they are very nice but I wasn’t planning on inviting them because one of them has a son and the other has a wife (who deleted me off facebook a year ago and I have no idea why) and a baby (who will not be invited as we are having no children under 10 due to the location of the wedding and reception). My mom thinks its weird if I don’t invite the sons because they all live so close to each other. And I understand that point of view but I’m not sure I want to invite 4 extra people just because its “weird”. And we are kind of close, but not THAT close. I’m not even sure what the baby’s name is. I think its a boy. LOL
Issue 2 – On my dads side he has three brothers. I know I will be inviting 2 of them and their families for sure. But one uncle I have not seen in about 6 years. He had a falling out with my dad and another brother over some silly thing though I know he doesn’t have a problem with me. He has two adult sons, and one is married with two kids (under 10… so they would not be invited) and I wasn’t invited to their wedding (no hard feelings about this AT ALL! I 100% understand not being able to invite your whole family). I haven’t spoke with my Uncle, his wife or my cousins in about 6 years. To save space for my other family and friends that have actually kept in contact with me, part of me doesn’t want to invite my 3rd Uncle, his wife, his two sons and son’s wife. But I also don’t want to cause further issues or hurt feelings. I feel like if I do invite them they probably wont come because of the distance away that they live but I don’t want to invite someone betting they won’t come. Because then I’m sure they would find a way to make it. 🙂
Wow… that was long. Sorry about that! I’m lucky that so far these are really the only two issues we’ve run across but I just can’t wrap my brain around the best way to deal with these issues. I’d love to hear any thoughts you might have!