Post # 1
Over the weekend we visited some of my bf’s relatives, and this particular family member asks us EVERY.SINGLE.TIME we see her when are we getting married…
I am able to laugh about it and joke around it, I told her by 2016, and asked her what she was paying for in our wedding lol
However… I haven’t asked my bf anything about our wedding/proposal in like 3 months!
Whenever this family memeber asks, he just laughs it off or changes the topic :/
I told him that this person is really funny but I hope she doesn’t asks us when I’m in a bad mood as I might snap :/
He said he doesn’t want to give me a date but that it’s happening “soon” which is all he’s been saying for the past few months…
I don’t want to nag or anything like that, but at times I do feel like we’re behind :/
should I try to have a conversation with him? wait and see what happens? we’ve been together for over 3 years, and I feel like with the plans we have a proposal should have happened already :/
Post # 3
@cherriesandcream: I don’t really have any good advice. Just the standard stuff. I’ve been with my SO for just over 3 years as well, and only recently did I get something besides “soon” and even that is a wide range of six months…
Post # 4
Trust me I totally understand. I’ve come to hate hearing the word “soon”.
Post # 5
@WannaBeeMrsB: exactly, the word soon has just become dreadful! I stopped him at soon and just told him to stop talking about it, I’m not pushing for a specific date but at least a general idea of when it will happen, there is so much to plan, not just the wedding but the moving, expenses, etc. :/
@aithinne: thanks 🙂 It sucks to know I’m not the only one thou 🙁 hope you get out of “soon” phase and at least be able to know when it would likely happen or something more substantial…ahh men…
Post # 6
I wish I could hear the word “soon”
But I do understand that after a while the same answers become annoying especially when there are no actions.
My SO’s family and friends are very pushy. They love to ask him “What are you waiting for?”, I recently participated in some athletic activities his family was a part of and they kept nudging him saying that he is looking good (meaning that I am a good catch), or even “It’s been a long time since we’ve eaten wedding cake (he usually direct them to a baker). Even in church a close friend said that our little family (we have 2 bambinos) is shaping up and they don’t know what is taking my SO so long.
He usually comes up with a smart, snazzy answer then laugh it off. They love to joke about how intently I watch him to see his response and reaction.
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. He keeps telling me soon. Now I have to back off because he just got laid off. 🙁 He did say though that the next big purchase will be my ring … but im an impatient girl. I’m used to getting what I want when I want it because I’ve always gotten myself what I wanted … Now that we’re together it’s more on his pace. lol. Sometimes I think being too independent gave me a flaw.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsHolmes: I’m impatient here too :/ definitely does not help the waiting period huh? sorry to hear he’s been laid off, hope he finds something better soon 🙂
Post # 9
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I hope you hear something more from him soon! guys have very different timeframes at times…it can be so frustrating every now and then…
Post # 10
@cherriesandcream: Thank you! It has delayed the process but this too shall pass!