Family Breakdown and weddings, Not easy, how did you handle it?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m a 4 time MOB who comes from the most incredibly dramatic, dysfunctional family background.  It is what soap operas are made of.

What it come down to is this:  you need to put the expectations out there that his parents will take one for the team on your wedding day, act like adults, and be there for him.  If anyone pulls the “I’m not coming if so and so is there” card, your FI needs to reply with, “I’m sorry you feel that way.  I really need you there on my wedding day and I need your support, but I am inviting both of you.  It is your choice whether or not you come.  If you choose to stay home, you will be missed.”

I kinda don’t get why your FI is so forgiving of his jerkface father, but it’s not my place to judge that.  YOU need to stay out of the whole thing and let your FI handle it.  I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 4
164 posts
Blushing bee

I have a similar situation! I hate things that my guys dad did to him and his brothers and know there will be tension with his mum and her sisters there with him and his Now wife. It’s so tough but I hope they will act like responsible adults. It’s weird when we have to tell our parents to act grown up 

Post # 5
25 posts

Oh dear that sounds like a huge problem. I hate to be of no help but I have no clue as to what I would do. I just read your post and wanted to post something supportive. Is it possible to have only SO’s dad come minus the new partner? No way to compromise? so sorry I’m not any help 🙁

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