- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2018 - Lavender House Hotel
Hi Everyone, Ive been looking at these boards for a long while now but have recently signed up, Its great to see the support you all have for each other on here!
Im not engaged as of yet, But me and my SO have plans and are very much committed to one another and a future together. We have been together for just over 7 years and he has been a huge part of my life over the years, a very close friend of mine and i have alot of care for him and his family.
Things havnt always been easy, a while into our relationship his parents broke up and got divorced. To cut a long story short his father revealed he had been having countless affairs for over 30 years, that he had been mentally abusing my SO mother and that he was leaving. This tore my SO apart, he lost alot of respect for his dad and now rarely see’s him but does keep in contact by phone. Turns out his dad was saying he was paying the morgage but actually putting his money elsewhere. So now my SO’s mother is having to sell the house they lived in owing money and work to pay rent elsewhere, despite being past retiring age,
Watching this happen to a person i have alot of love for was really hard for me, and i had to try and pull him and his mum through it. i have to admit, i have alot of anger towards his dad, and cannot personally forgive him for the pain he caused my SO and his mum.
Despite all of this, my SO loves his dad. Its his dad, and nothing can ever take that away from him. But i know that one thing that worries him about getting engaged and getting married is how things would work. I know for a fact that his dad feels its within his right to attend should we ever get married and also bring his new (current) partner. I also know that if he attended, any of the wedding. My SO’s mother would refuse to come and so would half of her side of the family.
Its a headache really, and one i know we will oneday have to face. So i was just wondering if this is something any of you have had to deal with? If so, what did you do? Whats Best?
Thanks for reading my veryy long post, appreciate it!