(Closed) Family Culture Mess- Sort of long sorry

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Whoever holds the wallet, plays the tune.

If your mom wants to invite, she has to be prepared to finance this. She can’t just say “I’ll pay for it” and then go missing later. You NEED to see the money. Likewise with your FMIL.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i agree with sacha2011 just be happy it’s your day you can”t make everyone happy my husband and i will have a tradional sri lankan ceremony and most of my “belgian” family won’t be there… it will probably make some people upset but i really can’t afford everyone to be happy. If you can afford another room do it otherwise go for the one that hold 30 ppl

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No, it makes sense. I don’t think either of you are being unreasonable. I can see how your mother would be upset that you are honoring your FI’s culture and not your own–particularly when excluding your family is involved and they’d get all mad and basically not talk to you anymore. 

I’d probably go with a change of venue and a bigger civil ceremony–but I can’t imagine excluding my family from the actual wedding. But if you want the smaller civil ceremony with the big Hindu thing, do that! I went to a Hindu wedding this year and it was crazy awesome.

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