(Closed) Family doesn’t care about our wedding

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Welcome to the Hive! 

What a hard thing to be dealing with during a time that should be so happy. =(

It sounds like you and your Fiance are pretty independent and self-sufficient.  Maybe that’s why his parents are a little more hands-off.  Plus it might be hard for them because typically the bride runs the show, and they may not want to appear like they are too pushy or stepping on your toes.  They probably see that you are capable of planning this wedding and they don’t to be seen as overbearing in-laws.

As for your mom, I feel for you.  Bipolar is a disease that affects the entire family.  Have you called your Mom to ask why she is being so distant?  Have you explained this to your Dad?


Post # 4
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@auroraborealis:  I just wanted to say that I really feel for you.  Weddings get so hyped up, especially for us ladies, that we really expect for our lives to turn into “A Wedding Story” or “My Fair Wedding” complete with adoring bridesmaids, overattentive mothers and friends tripping over themselves to get the latest wedding scoop that you have to share.  Unfortunately, reality is not usually like that.  People have lives and though they may be happy for you, the bride, they have their own lives to worry about.  It’s unfair and disappointing but, it is life.  That being said, I can empathize.  It sucks to have no one be as excited as you are for this day, especially since other siblings have received the treatment you are expecting.

My suggestion to you would be to invite your mother regardless of what she’s going through at the moment.  On the day of your wedding, you may be very sad to look up and not see both of your parents there.  As for feeling like you should just elope instead, believe me I feel you on that one.  But think of your Fiance and how happy you will both be on that day.  If no one wants to get excited for you, get excited for yourselves (that’s what Fiance and I decided to do last night). Take pleasure in making every decision yourselves and not having to listen to 50 differing opinions.  Celebrate each other first and foremost and everything else will just be “extra”.

If you want to talk or just need a sympathetic ear, please feel free to PM me.  Good luck. 

Post # 6
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@auroraborealis:  It’s really sad that you’re haing to deal with the family drama on top of planning the day of your dreams. I agree with sukie. I just had this discussion with Fiance a few nights ago. He had dinner with his parents and grandparents and while they did mention me a few times, they never once asked about the wedding plans or anything. Granted we don’t have any plans to share just yet but, but knowing that they cared enough to ask would have somehow made a world of difference to me. I don’t know why but it would have mattered. So the lack of enthusiam sucks but at the end of the day only 2 people need to be excited over this and it’s you and Fiance.

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