Post # 1
Hey! I just joined this site, I was referred by a friend. Anyways my problem. My mom and dad are divorced she cheated on my dad with his cousin..so my problem here lies..I don’t really want my moms boyfriend at the wedding. But I can’t really come out and say “hey mom, you can’t take him” its really rude, and everyone else is taking dates..so it really makes me feel bad.
is there a way to bring it up? like I would PREFER him not being there..but if she wants to deal with the awkwardness of it, then she can kinda thing?
I know my dad and his family wouldn’t cause drama about it on my wedding day that’s not the issue.
Post # 3
@sabbilicious: Hi fellow Monctonian!
We are not in precisely the same situation, but similar. My FSIL’s boyfriend is a meth addicted waste of space and we are not inclined to include him on our special day (I can envision him raiding the card box and taking off to meet his dealer while we cut the cake). We sat the sister down and explained to her that both she and her children were welcome but that the boyfriend was not. That it would upset other family members and that this was our special day and we were making this call but that she was important to us and we couldn’t imagine the day without her.
It was tense, but she saw our purpose and is respecting our wishes. Hopefully your crew can do the same for you.
btw, where did you find a venue in Moncton? I’m drawing a blank, everything is so blah!
Post # 4
@sabbilicious: I would just let her know that it would make you a little uncomfortable to have him there, but that if it would make her more uncomfortable to not have him there, you would understand. And then let her make the decision. I think the word “uncomfortable” is more subtle and not so abrupt as some other words you could use.