family drama…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@undertheradar:  I’m glad you’re getting support from your FI and FMIL. You guys are not in the wrong at all and Mike and FI are being pretty silly about this. You were courteous regarding their engagement news, you were mindful of choosing 3 months before instead 3 weeks or 3 days before (and you had to go by your life schedules, too), and colors are colors. There will be plenty of differences between the weddings.

I think what you can do differently is just to not talk about your planning directly with Mike and his FI anymore. You made your point to him. I’d lay low and just keep things as cordial as possible. If they find out things through the grapevine to further their fight, so be it, but should they ask you anything else point blank about your planning, be prepared for that and know that you’re not obligated to reply so don’t.

Also, while FMIL is great to be supportive of you and your sweetie, I really don’t see why she needs to get involved and say anything to Mike. To what end? I see it as flaming the fire and unnecessary. I’d let it go. There are more important things in life to worry about. 

Post # 4
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@undertheradar:  May I ask why you offered to share resources with Mike’s fiance? Did she ask?

If so, I think Mike needs to take this up with his FI if it bothers him SO much that you guys are talking and bouncing ideas/resources.

Honestly you could have the same colors, theme, what have you and still have an entirely different wedding than another person. I think Mike is acting like a drama llama and needs to just calm his butt down.

Post # 6
Member
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@undertheradar:  Sooooooo I have some questions that were’t clear to me and I read your post 2x. 

1) Did Mike know about your FI’s impending proposal?

2) If so did Mike try and wait through your health issues as well to propose and maybe thought that the proposal wasn’t going to happen so he jumped the gun?

Post # 8
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7203 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@undertheradar:  I think the best solution is to not tell people your colours (and other details of your wedding) as far as possible. In fact I’m not sure how Mike even found out.

Anyway, you’ve done nothing wrong. You can’t copyright a colour.

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