Family Drama

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Southwesternbride15:  Your close friends and family stopped talking to you because of what your mother said? How terrible. Unfortunately it doesn’t sound like they were very supportive to begin with if they’re willing to take her word for it and cut off contact.

Since your mom has already put your business out there, tell them what really has been going on and why you no longer speak to her. Beyond that there isn’t much you can do. True friends will be there for you.

Post # 3
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19 posts
Newbee

Sounds like an awful situation to be in, it seems like your mother genuinely believes she’s done nothing wrong, have you considered she may have a mental illness? I have a relative like this and it has caused many divides and can be very toxic. I know it’s hard to ask your father to take sides but maybe he could help you get your side across? It seems very unfair that you have to sacrifice your family for her. Hope you get it sorted *hugs*

Post # 6
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8025 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m so sorry- that sucks. But I want to warn you- setting everyone straight (which will surely get back to your mom and cause more drama) is going to be an uphill battle- it sounds like your relatives are pretty gripped by moms claws or they would have given you the benefit of the doubt.

I know you want to be surrounded by family for your ceremony- that’s the ideal. But life is less than that very often, and I don’t want you to get so caught up in this expectation and hope that your wedding day is a sad disappointment if it doesn’t work out. 

I would realign my expectations and hopes and tell myself “the people who truly support us will be there”. Invite your family, clear up rumors diplomatically, with out bashing mom, on the phone with the people you miss most, or write a letter explaining how much you miss them and how much it would mean if they attended.

But don’t get caught up in the fantasy of a hunkydory family wedding if your family is not in fact hunkydory. You’re making your own family now- look forward not back.

Southwesternbride15:  

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