- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So, I posted something before about my sisters and my destination wedding plans. They just don’t like to cooperate, so I just don’t care if they go or not. Now, something else has happened, and I have become rivals with my sisters when I should be their best of friends at this critical point. My father had just been diagnosed with liver cancer and colon cancer. I haven’t seen him since November. So both of my sisters have some sort of understanding with one another, they are partial to eachother, and I’m basically the ugly duckling. Everywhere they go, they are never calling me and telling me, but then again they turn around and say that I never want to go with them and I’m never interested in what they do. And then they say that I have a phone and I can use it to call them, but instead that I’d rather be with my FI. How would they know whether I want to go with them or not when they never call me to tell me? Do they expect me to have some magical mind reading powers and say, “oh let me call my sisters because they are going here or there and I want to go.” No way! I dont have those powers! So they always leave me out, and my FI had been starting to notice it.
Anyway, my father was in the hospital, and my sisters had already gone to see him the day before yesterday at the hospital. They didn’t let me know, I found out through my mother, and I got so upset that they didn’t call me to let me know that they were going. I don’t drive, my mom works, and so does my FI. My mom just finalized her divorce with my dad, so even though she was sad, she didn’t feel right going to visit him because his girlfriend was there. My FI was the only one who could take me, but I had to wait for him to leave work. So yesterday, I find out through my mom again that my sisters were going to see my father again, and once again, I wasn’t told. So that pissed me off, and I came home and told my sister, “Since you guys are leaving in half an hour, I want to take a shower and go with you guys, is that okay?” And she looked at me with the deadliest look ever and replied with such attitude, “Of course it’s okay why would you ask that for if you know your father is in the hospital you shouldn’t ask if you could go see him!” Then I said, “But thats not what I’m asking…” Then she cut me off and flipped so hard on me she turned into the incredible hulk, she didnt even let me explain myself, so it led to a yelling match.
She started yelling all sorts of things saying that I didn’t care about my father and I don’t want to go see him and said that I prefer my FI over anybody else it doesnt matter if someone is dying and blah blah blah. Then she says, go be miserable with your little boyfriend like you always are. THAT SET ME OFF! My FI and I have been together for over 4 years, we have never fought in these 4 years as much as she has with her boyfriend of 7 months. Its so much to that story that I can’t even type about it. What she didn’t let me explain is that I wasn’t asking if I could go see my father, I was asking if I could take a shower and get ready and go with them. Why would I ask to go see my father in the hospital? They really do think I’m that retarded. She said so many hurtful things to me, and now we are not talking. She has a history of going nuts on people, and she thinks it’s okay. I’m fed up, and my other sister is always backing her and supports her unreasonable actions. This is not a time for sibling rivalry, but they took it that far. Now I just can’t stand either of them, they don’t care about how I feel, they never have. It was because of them that my dad feels that I don’t care about him. Which made me more pissed. I’m so tired of their drama and always backing eachother and them being so partial to eachother. I don’t even wish them the best of how bad they hurt me. I don’t even care if they go to my wedding anymore. They said I never cared. For me even to consider moving my wedding location back home for them? Yeah, shows how much I don’t care.