(Closed) Family drama is starting early. Can you help?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why would no one want to attend a July outdoor wedding? If its heat then make it June. I dont think you should get beat up by them but listen to a few pieces which they may be thinking. To be honest I regret my two year engagement and wish I had planned the wedding in just over a year. 

Post # 4
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I guess depends on where you are.  Where I live, people desperately want their wedding to be in July since we don’t get to see sun much.

Here’s what I think:

summer can get really hot.  I am not familiar with IL’s weather so I don’t know how hot it can get in summer time.  If you wanted an outdoor wedding, (I am not even care about guests at this point) as a bride, if you have a big wedding gown and lots of makeup on, and if you are one of those that sweats a lot (I do!), it might not be ideal to have the wedding when outside is like 80+ degrees.

But of coz there are ways to get around it.  If you only have a short ceremony, maybe you can have it later on of the day so it’s not quite as hot as noon. Or if your venue outdoor has a lot shades and stuff for people who doesn’t like sun, good too.

We picked Aug because there will be less chance of rain for us.  So maybe you have to decide on which month works better for you guys.

Also, a lot of people tend to have stuff planned for summer time too.  So if you plan on having summer wedding, do tell them early.

Also, if you guys are doing it on a budget, all vendors charge more for summer time (in general) so it might be something to think about too. 


That being said, I will put guest’s wishes into considerations (only if they have valid points).  Fiance and I were SET on summer.  So our compromise is to find a place that won’t be quite as hot and in case it rains.  We found a venue with outdoor COVERED balcony for our ceremony.  It will be very nice, rain or shine. 

So don’t get discouraged on all comments.  My sister initially had it planned for Nov and people were complaining why not do it in summer time since their kids have summer vacation and so forth.

You can never please ALL relatives is what I have learned from the family.  😛


Post # 5
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry your Fiance family is being so nosey. I think you should do it whenever you want!

My engagement is going to be a year and seven months, but I wish it was only a year, but we got engaged in February, and we really were set on an October wedding, so its going to be a long engagement for us too. If I had the option to move it up, I would!

Post # 6
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s your and your fiance’s wedding, and you should plan whatever date is most desirable for you two.

I’ve learned quickly that family will always have their opinions on your wedding plans.  But other bees have helped to remind me that it’s not the end of the world if they don’t like something, and in the end it’s about the marriage. 🙂 Do what you want, and in the end you will be happy…(and I bet that day everyone else will be just fine too). 😉

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