Post # 1
I’m going to make this as short and brief as I can…
The beau wanted to elope because a wedding to cater to his family in MD and mine in MA is going to be more than we can both handle. However, I want my marriage to be blessed by a Catholic priest and that meant eloping can’t happen. So we came to a compromise to have a small ceremony followed by two small parties: a bbq in MA (at my aunt’s house) and then, a crabfeast in MD.
Well, those are OUR plans which we modified to accomondate everyone and within our budget. But it’s not going to fly with my mother. She also added that my father is not allowed to be anywhere near her house or my aunt’s house so I need to figure out where else to have this wedding. Not to mention the belittling comments I’ve been getting when I try to ask for her input. i.e. “Those wedding bands are too outdated.” and “Why are you wearing a short dress?” and “Who do you think will want to attend a bbq?”
I’m fed up and thoroughly annoyed. I just wanted to get it out there. Anyone else have family drama? How did you deal with it? Regrets? Please share!
Post # 4
@mnp: If that is what you want, and you and your Fiance are financing everything, I saw go for it! Just don’t tell your mother anything. Sounds cruel but it will save you a lot of drama. I got to the point I kept all my wedding ideas to myself and my Fiance. I was tired of drama from everyone!!!
Is your aunt ok with your dad being there? Because if SHE is, than invite your dad. Your mom can sulk all she wants, but you as the bride have the most emotional investment for the wedding.
Send your invites to the ceremony and the two receptions you will have and whoever will come will be there.
Best of luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Ugh-sorry! I agree with LuvMySailor-looks like you’ll just have to keep mom out of all the plans, unfortunately.
Post # 6
@happyface: We are financing our own wedding but my mom’s argument is that everyone in the family will be contributing.
@LuvMySailor: @rebwana: You’re both right. We’ll have to do the planning and won’t tell my mom anything. I believe my aunt will side with my unreasonable mom just to keep peace on her side. I might have to scrap the plans and do something else. I’m just glad that this came up now and not when we set a date.
Post # 7
Can you elope and have a catholic blessing on your return?