- Miss OBG
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I never thought I’d have to post about family drama. My family is really small (I have literally one cousin), so there’s just not room for drama. But ever since we got engaged, dramatic situations have been springing up. First, my one cousin decides he’s not going to speak to his parents anymore (not the first time he’s done this, but the most extreme and permanent-sounding). I was worried about inviting them both to the wedding, because if my aunt and uncle can’t attend their only child’s wedding (if he ever has one), I at least want them to enjoy mine without crying every time they see him. But my father’s attempting to engineer a reconciliation, and he’s definitely invited. So, family drama minimized?
BUT THEN FI’s family gets involved. His uncle has not been speaking to his parents for a year and a half, and is attempting to turn that whole side of the family against them. Meanwhile, they sent us a card congratulating us on our engagement, and since the feud hasn’t directly involved us and we didn’t want to perpetuate it, they were always on the guest list. Apparently, FI’s parents have now had enough and want them off the guest list. And now I don’t know what to do. If we don’t invite them to the wedding, I feel like there will always be half the family that we don’t speak to, and I don’t want to be involved in that. But I obviously don’t want to defy FIL’s wishes or upset them. They’re not paying for the wedding, but they’ve been so supportive and are helping with other aspects, so I respect their decision.
But we’re really not going to invite FI’s uncle? The uncle who has helped him repair his dirt bike numerous times only a couple years ago? And his family and kids? I’ve never been involved in a major family feud, but it’s stupid and I have to believe it won’t last forever. Will not inviting them do irreparable damage to the family? HELP!
Btw, the feud is about FI’s uncle feeling like FI’s parents think they’re better than everyone else (they don’t). No one else is mad, it’s just this one uncle’s tirade. But there it is.