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There has been so much drama between both of our families and friends that I am seriously considering canceling the entire wedding and getting married on the beach in Jamaica on our honeymoon (which is already planned and paid for). I mentioned this before when all all he!! broke loose but yesterday really took a toll on both of us after more and more drama got piled on and now we both are thinking of just having a DW. My question is can we do this or is it to late? Our wedding is already planned out and is set to take place in 3 months in our home town. Also my shower is suppose to be this weekend and I’m dreading it, I don’t want to go at all since this is where the majority of the problems are coming from right now and I know there’s only more to come. Is it rude to cancel the wedding and go for a DW if the shower goes horribly wrong (ie fights break out, someone cause a big scene etc, yes these are ADULTS were invited but you wouldn’t know it how they have been acting). I don’t want all these people who were invited to the wedding to bring us gifts if we do turn around and have a DW but at the sametime I don’t want to cancel the shower with less than a weeks notice after everyone has already gotten us gifts. The gifts are NOT at all what I want or care about, I just want everyone to realize that the wedding is about the two people getting married not all their drama and to actually be happy for us not cause more stress and tears. And honestly I’m not 100% sure if I do want a DW because part of me still wants to have my wedding in our home town but then the other part of me feels like why should we pay 1000’s of dollars for the big fancy wedding/ reception for a bunch of people who don’t seem to care at all about us. And there is no way of getting around not inviting the people who are causing the drama since they are immediate family, so a DW wedding just seems easier and less stressful. Any advise would be helpful at this point, has anyone else gone through this and changed to a DW to avoid the drama? Did it work or cause more drama because everyone was exculded?