- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Ok, Bees… The plot thickens!
I posted about 2 weeks ago about my cousin who got engaged in July & didn’t tell the family until I planned a NWR event and sent out invitations & she responded saying she wanted to have her engagement party on that date & asked me to cancel/reschedule my event. I sent out an email to the invited family members advising them that I would reschedule my event and thought everything would be fine.
To give you a little more background on this, even though they didn’t announce their engagement, her parents mentioned it to me so FI & I sent a congratulatory card & when they were in town a week or so later, we stopped by to toast them with a bottle of Moët. They barely said thank you & proceeded to offer us iced tea for the toast so they could save the Moët for another time with their friends. (Rude & tacky much?)
Two weeks have passed & I’ve not received an invitation to this out-of-town engagement party, so I felt a bit perturbed that I had canceled my event and she didn’t even use the date. Last Saturday, another family member expressed her disappointment with the cancellation of my event & then mentioned that she had RECEIVED AN INVITATION to the cousin’s engagement party that morning (we live a few blocks away so the delivery time should have been the same). She said that she & her husband will not attend & that if FI & I aren’t going, she’d like me to go forward with my event. Well, obviously, FI & I arent’ going if we’re not invited, right?
So here it is Thursday & I still haven’t received an invitation to her party & 5 other family members have called/emailed me advising that they’d prefer to attend my event and if I will still have it, they will decline her invitation. FI says “Screw them!” and go ahead with my event since the rest of the family (except for her parents and siblings) will attend & enjoy my event . He also said to remove them from our guest list (even though we sent them a save the date) & that they are not welcome at our wedding.
I am honestly shocked & insulted that FI & I didn’t receive an invitation. She knows my address, phone number, email, etc so it is not a matter of not being able to get the information to mail me something. Heck, I live three blocks from her parents & literally NEXT DOOR to her sister. Last year she had a milestone birthday party & she was upset that several family members didn’t attend, but many of us didn’t receive the *emailed* invitation. this doesn’t seem like an oversight to me, more like it was done intentionally… But I could be wrong.
So I guess my vent results in the following questions:
1. Would you say anything to her about not receiving an invitation?
2. Would you remove this couple from your guestlist?