Post # 1
Having a bit of a dilema – do we invite my cousin and family to our wedding or not?
Since I got engaged to my Fiance, my cousin got pregnant and engaged and married – which is wonderful. What is not wonderful is that she didn’t invite my finance to her wedding, inspite of the fact we were engaged before they were. They then decided to have a second wedding ‘as she wanted a wedding where she could party’ 2 weeks before mine. My mum told my aunt how unhappy she was with this arrangement, as people would have to travel to our hometown twice in a month, she moved the date an extra week forward.
Since then she’s had the baby, which is lovely, but then decided to have the baby’s christening on the day that my sister is having her blessing as she and her husband eloped this year. This means my family have to decide whether to go to my sisters small blessing or her babies christening.
Here’s why I’m thinking twice. We are having a smallish wedding 70ppl, so we’ve already had to cut back on people we’d like to invite but can’t. If we don’t invite my cousins and partners that 6 places saved that we could use for friends.
What are peoples thoughts?
Post # 3
No, you’re not obligated to invite anyone : ) If she’s the ONLY extended family member you’re cutting out then that’s probably a bad idea, I wouldn’t do that. But if you’re not inviting any of your cousins then I think that’s fine. She sounds pretty wrapped up in her own life, she probably won’t even realize it’s your wedding day lol. Invite the people who mean most to you & Fiance. Smaller weddings make the guest list hard (mine was same size as yours) but on the day of you’ll be glad to have an intimate group of close fam/friends.
Post # 4
thanks for the advice – it would be hard to leave off all the cousins – one is a flower girl and am close to another, its just frustrating having to leave off friends.
Post # 5
I think your cousin isn’t taking you, your Fiance, and your sister in consideration regarding her ceremonies so I don’t think it’s that big of a deal to omit them from the guest list especially considering you are already limiting the amount of guests to begin with.
Post # 6
@Mrs-Sept-2013: If you dont want her there for any reason, simply do not invite her.
Post # 7
@Mrs-Sept-2013: Yea I understand, and I wouldn’t want her there either after she was so incosiderate! But, I’d worry that you not inviting her would end up being more hurtful to your aunt then to her…maybe ask your mom what she thinks?
Also keep in mind not everyone’s going to be able to attend the wedding, you can usually invite a *few* more people than you want your final # to be, and it’ll work out in the end. Good luck!
Post # 8
@Mrs-Sept-2013: She doesnt seem to care about your feelings or your immediate family’s feelings so I wouldnt invite her. She was rude to not invite your Fiance to theirs. You are a couple. I say leave her off your list. Dont have someone at your wedding that you are unhappy with. Just seeing her may throw your mood off a bit.