(Closed) Family Drama (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It seems like they are trying to snowball you no matter what you do – like you said in the original post, you cut the guest list to AVOID folding to everyone else’s vision of your wedding day. Stick to your guns; do what is comfortable to you and your FI. If immediate family is all you want there, then by all means only have immediate family.

Post # 4
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sweetie – it is your wedding.  Your MIL already had her day.  Also, keep in mind that if you set the precident for allowing her to run you over, that will only continue and get much worse when you get married.  If you FI is not willing to speak to her and back up your plans, you should talk to her and thank her for her input, but nicely, yet firmly tell her that your plans are set and will not be changing. 

Post # 5
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Whether you elope or have your small wedding his extended family won’t be there, so it changes nothing for them, but does your FMIL get that if you elope SHE won’t be there either?  Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face! 

Stick to your guns and have the wedding that you want.  Good luck! 

Post # 6
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Would it be an option to have a casual, not-wedding-reception get together with his family a week or two after the wedding to celebrate? Something like a backyard potluck bbq or other casual get together? Something to make them feel included and let them celebrate with you (stress no gifts) and not break the bank, or not actually host in a way that you have to pay for it?

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