(Closed) Family Drama – Warning: It’s Confusing

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You either invite her or be ready to deal with the consequences. I mean only you know if this will cause a big issue within your family. If you feel it’s worth it then don’t invite her. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it really depends on the type of event you are having. If you are having a larger wedding and inviting a lot of people, it will definetely cause a problem. 

If it will be a small event and you can get away with saying “we really only have enough space for a few people” then it might be a little easier.

In both cases, be prepared to deal with a bit of backlash. I guess you have to decide what you prefer: having that ill feeling of her at your wedding or having to deal with upset relatives that she is not there. 

Good luck.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel your pain. I have a number of family members that I don’t want to invite to our wedding for various reasons. Ultimately, I decided to invite them anyways because in the end I’ll have to deal with the consequences. ie. awkward family gatherings, other family members getting upset, destroyed relationships that I might regret later, etc.

Post # 6
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kappasweetiepie: You don’t have to do anything, it’s YOUR wedding. You want people on your wedding day that’s going to give off good vibes and send good thoughts and well-wishes your way. Just knowing what you have typed and nothing else, she wouldn’t be invited to my wedding. If you just take out the part that she WAS MARRIED to your grandfather, and just leave it as “your uncle’s wifes mother” — We don’t have my aunts/uncles SO’s parents on our guest list. The choice is up to you and your FH.

However, as a previous poster stated, be prepared to deal with the consequences if you don’t. Since I’m almost sure it will cause issues.

Good Luck and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

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