- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hi All, ( VERY LONG POST)
My first post as a bride to be and Hi to all of you 🙂
Well an introduction: I’m Amanda from the UK and I get married on the 15th September 2012. We have been engaged for 6 years and finaly decided to take the plunge as my adoptive father of 86 can’t hold on much longer and I want him there sooo much 🙂
I don’t do the whole wedding thing and my option would be to go to las vegas and come back married job done and no return party 🙂 (this would have left my adoptive father out but everyone else too) however my other half wanted a family affair, so I agreed on the compromise it would be in my home town not his.
The wedding party
His mate (best man)
One of his brothers son’s as pageboy
His sister as Bridesmaid or Best Man
His father and mother (mother and father of groom) She asked if she could be bridesmaid (WTF) and keeps complaining about the distance they have to travel approx 20 miles
My youngest brother’s Girlfriend as Maid/Matron of Honor as she is my best mate
MY middle brother’s daughter as flower girl
MY oldest brothers step son as page boy (this got everyone from my side involved)
My adoptive dad to give me away (sort of as he is in a wheelchair and has severe breathing problems)
My real mam, she has no new partner and my adoptave mum died when I was 20 🙁
My real dad (and his new partner) there is no grudge between my real mam and dad or his partner but there is between my real dad and adoptive dad. The wedding duties are being shared between these two, if my adoptive dad could do more it would be all him.
I also have my long term friends daughter and my neighbours daughter as flower girls as I love these kids and spend a lot of time with them.
Problems:My older bro split with his girl and we invited her child as pageboy 🙁 i don’t really like his ex and have never been pally with her, in fact she is a bit of a user and annoys me. When we announced our wedding 11 months before we were getting married she decided to announce hers a week after us and hers was to take place 3 years later she also sent save the date cards with christmas cards in 2011 knowing mine was to happen first. She then announced where she was having it in 3 years time to all my family so I could not pick the same place or it would of made it look like I had, so this girl really annoyed me going on and banging on and pushing her wedding at everytime me, her and my family were together. i even said at one point can we not all enjoy mine first she said she needed to ensure I was not going to copy or have any of her ideas for a wedding in my wedding even though theirs was in 3 years time and I was trying to organinse mine in 11 months.
She asked me round the other night to tell me my bro has left her in the lurch and she has no money to come to my hen night in 3 months time. She has had notice for 2 months for how much this would cost and agreed at the time. (although she has found money to redecorate her house to remove signs of him, join a gym and have a makeover with her wardrobe). She also told me she has a very expensive dress in mind to attend my wedding and she should look fab to try and rub my bro up the wrong way for leaving her.
My bro is now expecting me to invite him, his new girl,her 2 kids, his ex and her 3 kids.
Quite frankly I don’t want his ex anywhere near my wedding and I really don’t want her child as pageboy I know this sounds cruel but he has not bothered with these kids since he left her ( I don’t agree with my bro and the way he treated her or the kids i’m disgusted and told him so).
What should I do I don’t want to be cruel and let this 7 year old down I think it is mean. I thought my bro could have brought him but that is no longer an option as she says she brings them or no one. I also don’t want pple in my photos who are only there for the short term.
🙁 I dislike weddings well my own anyways 🙂 x