Family Feud = no best man… Do I now make a speech?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I make a speech to take the place of the best man speech?
    Yes...thats so sweet : (6 votes)
    55 %
    No....leave it alone : (4 votes)
    36 %
    Maybe but be prepaired for backlash! : (0 votes)
    Explain to your good friends and un-invite one of them Invite the baby daddy, get your best man back : (1 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Weather you have a best man or not, I think the bride and/or groom should make a speach at the wedding just to thank everyone for coming, thank the family that supported them, ect.

    As far as the family situation, that is TOUGH.  There is a point where your guest list has to be done, no mater what happens with other people’s relationships.  Do you really not have space for one more person without un-inviting someone?  Just to save yourself the drama, I would look into squeezing him in, but not at the cost of un-inviting someone. 

    Post # 4
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    3693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I know things are done differently in the UK, but I would be hurt too if my boyfriend/future father of my child wasn’t invited to my brother’s wedding with me. Rather than creating more family drama that will be a shadow on your wedding day, I would try to reorganize your plans so that everyone can attend with their significant others.

    In terms of speeches, most brides and grooms give a joint short speech together thanking everyone for coming. You could share a story about your husband at that point if you wanted to.

    Post # 6
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You could have your MOH give a speech?

    Post # 8
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    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @SherbertLemony:  Odds are he won’t be a stranger forever, especially since he’s a father to the baby, I’m sure he will be around am lot more than the two times you have seen him. So you would rather not explain to people that you don’t know this guy when they look at pictures? What about when you little niece/nephew grows up and asks why daddy wasn’t in your wedding photos what are you going to say ‘auntie didn’t know him and didn’t want him invited’ whether you know him or not he’s a big part of your FAMILIES life whether you like it or not. We can’t pick our family. People in the wedding party are usually the people closest to you be it family  or friends, so by association whoever your wedding party is dating at the time should be important to you , because they are important to you wedding partymregardlessmof how many times you habe seen them or how well yoi knownthem. Its not like a random guy she’s dating, he’s the father of her child which is a whole different ball game. Causing waves and not inviting him can cause harmful tension for the new mommy and daddy during this time, if he starts feeling like her family hates him and feels excluded it could push him apart instead of bringing them together, which is why your FMIL is probably upset because she probably knows this is a critical time for the two of them and she probably wants to make sure that their new relationship and pregnancy get off to a good start rather than one of anger and resentment,. Your FSIL and the father of her baby need some understanding and support from you instead of judgememt. Your wedding is one day, he will be that baby’s father for his whole life, what if they end up getting married? You won’t have any pictures of him in your day because you didn’t want him in photos. 

    As for the numbers quotes a few people end up not showing up, what’s one more person going to hurt? This guy should be at the top of your stand by list before anyone else. They may not be married but they are pregnant and he’s the father of your future niece/nephew, which makes him family. 

    We made sure to leave space for our wedding parties guests and siblings guests first and foremost before inviting anyone else. They are important to us, and they care about the people they are dating. Who cares if they stop eating, ui wouldn’t consider it ruining my wedding photos just because I don’t know them, I’m looking forward to seeing them at the wedding and GETTING TO KNOW THEM. Its a chapter in my life, in their life and I don’t want to hide it just because its not picture perfect. 

    Post # 10
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m sensing quite a bit of judgement here…

    Post # 11
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    3693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Do you already have the license for your venue? If your wedding isn’t for another four months, hopefully you have some time and some wiggle room to make some adjustments.

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