(Closed) Family Feud, RSVP missing

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: How should I figure out if the feuding families are coming?
    Let it go. They're probably not coming. : (0 votes)
    Reach out to the responsive cousin and ask about his parents and sister : (11 votes)
    100 %
    Ask a different cousin to ask my responsive cousin to ask his sister and parents : (0 votes)
    Other (please explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you should confirm – sometimes feuding families do things just to irritate each other (i.e. not rsvp-ing and showing up anyway).

    And maybe, by reaching out through your cousin you can start to heal this rift with the next generation so it doesn’t continue into the future.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    Force your mom to call them. She was the one who wanted them to be invited, so she should have to follow up. I am assuming it is your mom’s brother who is the head of the family that hasn’t responded. Therefore, it is your mom’s duty to call her brother.

    Post # 6
    Member
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I wouldn’t involve the people in the feud (ie your mom). I would take it upon yourself to call the invited parties and say something like “Hi! I need to get my final numbers into the caterer by Monday at the latest. If by Sunday I still haven’t heard back, I just want to let you know that there will not be a seat or meal reserved in your name. My number is….Thanks!” (I posted this in another thread yesterday if it seems familiar 😉

    The family members my parents don’t get along with didn’t RSVP to my sister’s wedding but then showed up and they had to scramble to get them meals and seating. They then said a lot of hurtful things about my sister’s wedding to my parents. So when they don’t return the RSVP to my wedding, I’m calling and saying what I quoted above.

    (Ugh, now that I look at this, I shouldn’t have even invited them.)

    Post # 7
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    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Well, if you’ve reached out to get a response already, to no avail.  I’d probably leave it alone.  Its unfortunate that you’re getting effected by the residuals of your family’s issues.  But it sounds like they’re probably not planning on attending. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I agree with @Vonnegurl.  Get their number from your mom and call them yourself!  If your parents really are feuding with them, don’t make your parents call.  And I think @Vonnegurl’s quote sounds good too.  Do it!

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