Post # 1
I honestly do not know how to feel right now….. I know in the long run it does not matter but I can’t help but feel really dissapointment, annoyed, and upset…
Sooo a really good family friend of ours (she is about 10 years older, but I have known her since I was in middle school) was planning on getting married next year as well… which is totally not a big deal especially since she was planning on having her wedding at a casino (even put down the deposit)…
BUT then I find out yesterday that she decided to cancel her wedding at the casino and is now having her wedding at the venue my fiance and I booked over 1.5 years ago! It shouldn’t matter but her wedding is 2 months before ours, she is basically having our same color scheme, AND she has a huge budget (like $180 per plate budget…)…
Now I feel like everyone we know together (that will be coming to both weddings) will be comparing our weddings and I do not know how to handle this… I mean how can my wedding, which is not even a 1/3 of hers budget wise, compare to something so extravagant?!?!?
I don’t want this to affect me or my wedding but I can’t help but feel really sad about all this and a little pissed..
Anyway I just wanted to vent and see if y’all had any thoughts of how to get through this… Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
Ugh I get why you feel like that, I would too. How much of your guest list do you share? Just remember… you’re younger, you’ll be the hotter bride!
Post # 4
If she had a bigger budget you would be comparing your weddings regardless of where hers took place. Especially since your weddings are close to each other.
It is really not a big deal, I know you are upset right now but you just need to let it go.
Post # 6
no 2 weddings will look alike. don’t stress about it and enjoy your day.
is it coincidence that she picked the same colors or did you tell her yours? did she know you booked that place? can you add an additional color or change it slightly?
Post # 7
@mm13: it’s not a competition. Im going to assume your venue hosts lots of weddings so…it’s not crazy or mean that someone else you just happen to know is getting married there.
if she’s older, it stands to reason that she has a bigger budget. No one will care. Truth is, our weddings and the details matter most to us…to everyone else, it’s just another wedding.
Post # 8
@Pinkmoon: after I had time to think about it honestly we only have about 35-40 people that are the same… but still the idea makes me upset
@pixiecat: honestly she has always had a bigger budget and I was totally okay with everything, even the same color choices because I knew it was at a different place and it wouldn’t matter… but since it is at the same place now it is starting to feel like she is competing or something.. idk
@ajillity81: I know it is not that big of a deal in the long term but it’s just frustrating. and yes she did know about my colors beforehand, which I didn’t think was a big deal cause it was at a totally different venue… AND she did know about the venue too because we shared everything… It doesn’t feel like a coincidence tbh
@Zhabeego: I didn’t think it was a competition in the beginning but now it feels like it is… at least for her cause all she can point out is how much her wedding is and how if we were on the tv show “four weddings” hers would win most likely for the best wedding.. yadda yadda yadda…
Thanks you guys for your opinions and thoughts.. I know my wedding is all about marrying my man and about our ceremony (which I know will be amazing) but I can’t help but feel like everyone will think I copied her… :/
Post # 9
@Zhabeego: I’m with you.
There are only so many venues and so many color combinations to pick from. I know everyone wants their wedding to be unique, but it’s not the venue or the colors that differentiate weddings; it’s the people and the atmosphere and the personal touches.
I doubt she’s trying to make this a competition. I’m sure she just happened to like the same things as you and your FI. Maybe she always had her eye on that venue but they didn’t have anything available on the date she wanted until just now. Or maybe it wasn’t in her budget, but she just got a huge influx of cash and now it is.
Look at her wedding as a trial run. You can figure out what works best and what doesn’t. Maybe you thought you’d have runners in X color but after seeing her wedding, you realize it doesn’t look that great and opt for something else. Or maybe she’ll have something super amazing that you never thought of that you can use in your wedding.
Post # 10
@mm13: Ah, that would be annoying. Frankly, her comments are embarrassing in their childishness. When she makes them, smile serenely, wait a beat and change the subject.
Post # 11
My best friend is getting married at the same venue as us too, so I know how you feel. She booked it after we decided to get married there, but is getting married before us. My FI isn’t too happy about it, but I was ambivalent about the whole thing. And I still am for the most part. The way I see it, I can go to her wedding and get a better idea of the layout of everything and how I will do things differently on my wedding day. So see it as a way to get a trial run of the place before your big day.
Post # 12
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
I know your pain. Though my wedding and FI’s bro’s wedding is in different venues and different colors.. I know family will compare especially since there only 2 months apart and they have a much bigger budget then us. It does bother me but I’ve gotten a lot better about getting over it. Just no sense in stressing. So don’t worry and just think of the bigger picture!
Post # 13
I don’t blame you for being upset, but I think it’s not something to stress over too much. And please don’t let it dampen your excitement for your own big day! There’s really nothing that can take away from how special your day is going to be. 🙂
Post # 14
I am sorry but really? This venue more than likely holds quite a few weddings throughout the year. So what if she is having her wedding at the same place. To me it sounds like you are being a bit childish here. Let it go and just enjoy planning your wedding.