Family friend having wedding at same venue?!?!

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Ugh I get why you feel like that, I would too. How much of your guest list do you share? Just remember… you’re younger, you’ll be the hotter bride!

Post # 4
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If she had a bigger budget you would be comparing your weddings regardless of where hers took place.  Especially since your weddings are close to each other.

It is really not a big deal, I know you are upset right now but you just need to let it go.

Post # 6
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6270 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

no 2 weddings will look alike.  don’t stress about it and enjoy your day.

is it coincidence that she picked the same colors or did you tell her yours?  did she know you booked that place?  can you add an additional color or change it slightly?

 

Post # 7
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mm13:  it’s not a competition. Im going to assume your venue hosts lots of weddings so…it’s not crazy or mean that someone else you just happen to know is getting married there.

if she’s older, it stands to reason that she has a bigger budget. No one will care. Truth is, our weddings and the details matter most to us…to everyone else, it’s just another wedding.

Post # 9
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2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Zhabeego:  I’m with you.

There are only so many venues and so many color combinations to pick from.  I know everyone wants their wedding to be unique, but it’s not the venue or the colors that differentiate weddings; it’s the people and the atmosphere and the personal touches. 

I doubt she’s trying to make this a competition.  I’m sure she just happened to like the same things as you and your FI.  Maybe she always had her eye on that venue but they didn’t have anything available on the date she wanted until just now. Or maybe it wasn’t in her budget, but she just got a huge influx of cash and now it is.

Look at her wedding as a trial run.  You can figure out what works best and what doesn’t.  Maybe you thought you’d have runners in X color but after seeing her wedding, you realize it doesn’t look that great and opt for something else.  Or maybe she’ll have something super amazing that you never thought of that you can use in your wedding.

Post # 10
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mm13:  Ah, that would be annoying. Frankly, her comments are embarrassing in their childishness. When she makes them, smile serenely, wait a beat and change the subject. 

Post # 11
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1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My best friend is getting married at the same venue as us too, so I know how you feel. She booked it after we decided to get married there, but is getting married before us. My FI isn’t too happy about it, but I was ambivalent about the whole thing. And I still am for the most part. The way I see it, I can go to her wedding and get a better idea of the layout of everything and how I will do things differently on my wedding day. So see it as a way to get a trial run of the place before your big day.

Post # 12
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

I know your pain. Though my wedding and FI’s bro’s wedding is in different venues and different colors.. I know family will compare especially since there only 2 months apart and they have a much bigger budget then us. It does bother me but I’ve gotten a lot better about getting over it. Just no sense in stressing. So don’t worry and just think of the bigger picture!

Post # 13
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22134 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t blame you for being upset, but I think it’s not something to stress over too much. And please don’t let it dampen your excitement for your own big day! There’s really nothing that can take away from how special your day is going to be. 🙂

Post # 14
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am sorry but really?  This venue more than likely holds quite a few weddings throughout the year. So what if she is having her wedding at the same place. To me it sounds like you are being a bit childish here.  Let it go and just enjoy planning your wedding. 

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